Jump to content
  • Want to be a part of a supportive community? Join the H Opp community for free.

    Welcome to the Herpes Opportunity Support Forum! We are a supportive and positive group to help you discover and live your Opportunity. Together, we can shed the shame and embrace vulnerability and true connection. Because who you are is more important than what you have. Get your free e-book and handouts here: https://www.herpesopportunity.com/lp/ebook

Married and new to Herpes? Big Question

Recommended Posts


Having sex at the beginning of an OB "may" lead to her having an OB but it would be more as a result of sex itself (rubbing etc) than it is about the OB. There is some evidence that when you are new to the virus it can "spread" to other areas but generally speaking, if you both have hsv2 on the genitals, and have had the virus for a while it shouldn't make a difference. I tend to get OB's in numerous spots on my genitals as well as my tailbone, other people tend to get them in the same spot but the virus is in the nerves and can show up in more than one location on that nerve network. I have had sex numerous times over the years with an H+ partner before, during and after an OB and it had zero effect on him! (he RARELY had OB's). My opinion is, if you feel like having sex and your wife does too then do it! The general rule of thumb is to avoid sex during an OB but there are many reasons for that, you have to mutually decide if you want to abstain or not. Another option is to use some sex toys and have fun with each other in other ways :)

Link to comment

The general rule is that it's thought to take about 4 months to build up antibodies to the virus so that you don't autoinnoculate yourself (or in this case, your partner too) so if you are over the 4 month period you *should* be ok... if you are not quite sure of exactly when one or both of you got it, I might wait a few more months before playing during an OB just to be safe.... once it's really established and the body is getting it under control it shouldn't matter as long as you both have the same one (HSV1 or HSV2).....


In the meantime there's a lot you can do to shorten the OB's... I'll put the links below ... and as @fitgirl said, there's a lot of awesome ways to get freaky and using this time can be beneficial in the long run for your sex life :)


http://herpeslife.com/herpes-forum/discussion/5807/list-the-ways-to-protect-my-partner-from-getting-herpes-hsv2 Safe alternatives to sex



http://herpeslife.com/herpes-forum/discussion/6024/dealing-with-outbreaks#latest includes links below






Links to some of the items suggested in the links

http://amzn.to/1CHUzZE Link to Alum


http://amzn.to/1F10r3V Fractionated Coconut Oil

http://bit.ly/zincsoap Zinc Soap with coconut oil








Link to comment

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now
  • Create New...