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Blood test positive for hsv1 and hsv2


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My blood test came back positive for both hsv1 and hsv2. I have only recently had my first outbreak in the genital area. Is there no way to tell if I have hsv1 oral unless I get an outbreak in my mouth? As far as sexual partners if I'm seeking to only date others with hsv (to avoid the dreaded talk) does this mean the other person should also have hsv1 and 2? This seems even more complicated and will limit my options even further? This is all do confusing. Just looking for some clarity I guess. Thanks..

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Welcome to the club! Sucks I know but there are worse things right? I too have HSV1 and 2 :) Lucky us haha Everything will seem complicated but you have to look at this as just another part of your life. Live like you don't have herpes. Continue to do the things you love and be open to the possibility of love. You don't have to only date someone who is H+. A LOT of people could care less about it! If/when you really connect with someone and want to go further with them, tell them and see what happens. If they aren't able to accept it then they aren't for you. If they can't accept a skin rash, do you really think they can handle all the ups and downs you will go through in life? Probably not. The "dreaded talk" will be that only if you make it like that. Let it be a moment of vulnerability, a moment of sharing something personal with someone you care about. Don't let it be a moment of shame or embarrassment. There is nothing to be embarrassed about OK. Own who you are and all that you have experienced. Embrace this new thing and move forward. I am here if you want to chat k?

((HUGS))

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@Summer0003

 

I'm spreading this all over the Forum today because I really hope people will GET this...:

 

"Herpes really is a nuisance skin condition in a really inconvenient place ... with a really shitty stigma attached to it thanks to our Puritanical forefathers whose legacy has been to make us ashamed of enjoying sex. So whenever something *bad* happens in relationship to sex, we believe it's a punishment for DARING to enjoy it. Your first, and most difficult challenge will be to not buy into the stigma ... "

 

So - I'm a 35+ yr veteran ... with HSV1 AND 2 - got H1 orally around age 4... HSV2 genitally on my first ever sexual experience.... and made it through the 70's and 80's getting married and having kids with 1/10th of the info that we have now. My point is, this is nothing new, and you are FAR from alone. And you don't have to relegate yourself to the "Herp-Derp Dating Sites" to find love. So my first piece of advice... read all the Success Stories that you can on here .... we have TONS of people finding love with a H- partner .. in fact, I tell people that Herpes is the best Wingman you will ever have, because those who love you UNCONDITIONALLY won't give two shits about you having it 🙂

 

Odds are your HSV1 is oral ... 80% of the population has "Cold Sores' .... 60% of young people have it by the time they are young adults. It's really no big deal - you just need to be aware that you should be careful about giving oral sex if you have any sores on/in your mouth or if your partner is dealing with any kind of skin issue in the genitalia/immune issues/etc ... even so, lord knows how many people are having oral sex right now with a HSV1+ partner and 99% of them won't get it ... 😉

 

Be patient. Give yourself time to process this and to get educated before you get all set on only dating H+ partners.... because even though it's REALLY common, 80% of carriers don't know they have it... so the reality is few are out there on the H+ dating sites ...

 

(((HUGS)))

 

Handouts + disclosure e-book:

https://www.herpesopportunity.com/lp/ebook

 

http://projectaccept.org/who-gets-hsv/

 

http://herpeslife.com/herpes-forum/discussion/6070/it-gets-better great tips for newbies

http://herpeslife.com/herpes-forum/discussion/2886/herpes-yoga-and-self-love

 

http://herpeslife.com/herpes-forum/discussion/6801/throwing-herpes-on-top-of-ugly-my-shallow-post

 

http://herpeslife.com/herpes-forum/discussion/6780/something-for-you-to-chew-on

 

 

 

Herpes facts video

 

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Thank you so much for the responses and support. It really does help to hear the perspectives of people that have been living with this and helps me start to see things from a different point of view...especially the part about not being limited to only date H+ people. I will continue to read the success stories. :)

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