Time for my second herpes disclosure...

[jp1130]

I'm about to complete my second disclosure since being diagnosed. I've been dating a woman for close to a month now once or twice a week and we have hit it off from the second we met. My anxiety has me pretty worked up about it but I know that it needs to be done. I feel like we have gotten to the point where we are both ready to take it to the next level.

 

I've been reading and re-reading the ebook over and over again and tonight and lately my anxiety has been so bad about this that I've been talking with a therapist. I know that many of you have gone through this and it is normal to feel this way but it is tough. I'm going to write out exactly what I want to tell her and practice. Tomorrow she is coming over and I'm going to let her in on my story so we'll see how it goes. Thanks for all you guys do on here.

[whiteshadowcgb]

Good luck :) thinking happy thoughts

[mr_hopp]

Bro! If you've read the e-book over and over, then you should know by now that it's less about practicing the way to do the talk right, but being authentic and true to yourself. ;) Feel what's true. Don't focus on the words. Focus on the feeling of connection you have with this woman. Less on getting it right. More on a vulnerable conversation. Why are you having the herpes talk in the first place? Because you care. Focus on that. Not the herpes. Regardless of the outcome, you're being true to yourself and showing your courage and character. And that's awesome. And I'm rootin' for you! ;) Big bro hug! Let us know how it goes!

[Joel_1300]

Hope all went well on your date

[jp1130]

Thanks a lot guys. I'm doing it tonight. You are right Adrial. I appreciate the words of inspiration. I'm ready to do this regardless of the outcome.

[jp1130]

Hey guys just wanted to say thanks again. Last night was tough and I feel like it took me forever to finally get up the courage to spit it out but I did it and it went well. We talked for a while about it and I explained everything that I know about the virus and what I do to take care of myself and she said that she really appreciates the fact that I shared everything with her and she admired me for my honesty and she is looking forward to spending more time together. I do realize that this was all said face to face so there is a chance that after she does some research on her own that feelings could change but I feel good about the fact that I was honest with her. It was a big step in dealing with this.

 

 

[bonafiderarity]

good for you. that makes me super happy!

[Forever_Spring]

Awesome! Stay positive if it's meant to be it'll be.