Should I notifying a past partner

[Trist2110]

I was at my docs last week and decided to request a full std screen, my husband recently had a affair. I came back positive hsv1 and hsv2. The antibody levels were high so I have had the virus for a while. I have never had a single symptom and my ex-husband claims he's has never had a symptom. Yes I am convinced he passed it to me. I didn't even know what H was until now. Three weeks ago prior to knowing I was infected, I had unprotected sex on three occasions with the same partner. He has shown no signs of an outbreak. Based on my reading there is only 4% chance he was infected. The question is do I tell him he was exposed? Since he has not had an outbreak he either didn't get infected or he already has it. I wish I didn't know. I think with H ignorance would be better than knowing especially if you have no symptoms.

[Bambina3]

Well now, depends on who you talk to here...they do advocate disclosure. For obvious reasons, to give the person a chance to decide for themselves if they want to be exposed.

Once I knew I was hsv2 positive I walked away, did not disclose, and did not expose him to it again.

[Irene]

I personally, would tell him, that way he can get checked out himself.

[MMissouri]

I do not mean this in a bad way but finger pointing is not going to help the situation. I would say start at home first. Get your husband to get tested for both. He needs to be aware of his status as well.

 

I would think that since you have both, the HSV1 is probably oral and something you've had since you were a kid. A lot of people don't remember having cold sores when they were younger. Good luck.

 

[Bambina3]

I personally can only share my own experience and decisions...I have chosen not to tell my husband, however, I will not see him suffer without intervention...so an ob is identified, I will seek him to get treatment.

If you feel certain he is your giver, then you might want to deal with it differently.