Need help need advice don't know what to do?

[Leo85]

I had sex with a woman who told me she had hpv. I know what that is as had got hpv 10 years ago. I said I have protection either way there's no worries and I was relieved she said hpv. Just my luck into sex I feel the condom break so I quickly put on another one. For a couple days later the left side of my shaft feels irritation this has happened before because we had alot of sex and since I'm a hypochondriac I automatically assume I could have herpies. I'm checking everywhere especially where it's irritated but nothing I finally see like a sore like 1 single open sore no blister no pain no itching at the base of where the condom ended on the bottom. I suspected it was maybe syphilis because I had no blister and it was just one single chancre no pain. I get all the test done and the everything is negative except the IGG herpies 1&2. I'm devastated I feel so broken so horrible it's been about a month and I have not had any other OB other than that single non blister painless sore. All I wanted was to move on from my cheating wife that I just got a divorce from a few months ago I've been so depressed about that and now this! I was worried that I might be alone and scared that I might not find anybody again and now I really feel 1000 times more horrible and feel so lost. Ive been crying, for days always thinking about how my life is over. Been drinking like a fish at times cause I'm so depressed. my lip tingles sometimes and I get tingles down there too sometimes but I have not seen any blisters or anything yet is this common? do I just maybe have a small amount of the virus? there were no numbers in the IGG test just said positive. Should I have had a OB like grouping of blisters where it's a definite sign?

 

[Luv2bblonde]

When I was diagnosed I cried for 4 days and drank like a fish as well. How your feeling is normal. But after about a week you start to see that little light in the tunnel. Your life is not over and your dating life is not over. So many people are going through the same feelings you are and they are valid feelings. I hope this helps.

[MMissouri]

Every case is different but you stopped me at the IgG just said positive. Was it a combined hsv1&2 test? Because you can get type specific IgG testing and that should give you numbers.

 

I'm thinking that one little sore was nothing, and if you are positive I doubt it was from that one encounter. That's just my opinion though. Odds are you have worried yourself into feeling these symptoms, and that is very normal for those that just find out that they are positive.

 

Take a deep breath. Get the proper test. Hang in there. It's not the end of the world. Once you have those numbers you will have some answers.

[Leo85]

Thanks @ luv2bblonde just feeling down, confused and dont k ow what kies ahead of ne right now, thanks for your words though it really helps to read them.

 

@mmissouri the blood samples I gave it says HSV1 + 2 ab IGG. There are 1 and 2 right underneath eachother that and they just say positive no numbers though. I slept with her on the 25 and on the 30th of my I saw the painless sore and on the 31 I got tested because I was already thinking what it might be. I didn't get a fever but I got a slightly swollen lymph node on my right side groin. nothing crazy I just could tell that it was a lil off I don't know if I felt tired or I was just depressed and stressed out so. I still went to the gym I go everyday felt better because I have so much anger in me I don't want to fly off the handle at someone. Then I start getting depressed again when i start thinking about the possibility that I have it and all the negatives about how my life might be with relationships. Again I don't see any blisters do you know how long they take to form and rupture.? I started taking Valtrex daily and lysine along with vitamin c and changed my diet a little bit from what I read. Should I have seen any blisters at all anywhere by now? All I feel is sensitivity and irritation sometimes down there but not where the single sore was. Thanks.

[Elise1977]

It is almost impossible that a blood test would show positive 6 days after the encounter. Was there a swab, too? I would ask for values for each.

[Leo85]

There was not a swab done yet... I plan to though for my own sanity. I will ask for the values of each but for some reason it's not on the report Idk why? I just really want to know for sure. I'm devastated because of the positive results on the IGG but I haven't seen any blisters at all which is kind of a relief. It has been a month about since it happen. I know it had to be last month because I was away for 9 months prior and didn't have sex or any of these issues to be concerned about.

[Elise1977]

For the record, once you get your numbers, just because you've never seen a sore before doesn't mean that it is a new infection. You can carry the virus in you for decades without ever having a sore and then one pops up out of nowhere. It's also possible that the condom breaking caused a sore/irritation and is unrelated, and your combined IGG is simply showing that you're HSV1 positive, which the majority of humans on earth are.

 

I know it feels devastating right now, but it won't be the end of love in your life. There are so many people who either have it, or who are willing to take the risk of pursuing a relationship. Disclosure is no fun, and if my current relationship ever ends, I will not be looking forward to having to do it again, but it is what it is. You can't let it own you. You are not a different person than you were before you got your results. Don't let it make you one.

[Leo85]

Thank you for your input I really appreciate it. I just have so much on my mind now. I feel alone cause I feel I have nobody that I can really talk to without feeling a certain kind of way or them towards me. I have so many questions and want to educate myself as much as I can. As you say for right now i definitly have HSV1 with the positive result and the real definitive will be to get the numbers from them to find out how high or low they are to be sure. If its below 3.5 does that mean its a negative if its that low?

[MMissouri]

@Leo85 like Elise1977 said, it very possible you've had this for years. The reason I'm saying this is because an IgG takes awhile to show a positive result- it would not be positive after a week.

 

As for your questions, some people don't ever develop blisters. I'm surprised they gave you valtrex so quickly. This could be HSV1 from cold sores, your results do not mean you have a genital infection. A swab of the sore would tell you that. (Odds are it's to late for that now though.)

 

I would take this time to continue going to the gym, relax, get the proper test. Leave the alcohol alone (It's not going to help regardless) and educate yourself. This website has tons of good information.

[Katidid]

@Leo85 it's very possible and highly likely you got something from your cheating wife (if, in fact, you do have herpies). Your test would not come up positive 6 days later. If it's showing positive it goes back much farther than 6 days and possibly the condom breaking or just the sex alone could have caused enough friction to bring on an outbreak. I would get tested again and get type specific and make certain you tell Dr you want type specific and numbers. Good luck!!

[StillMeButWiser]

Takes at least 4 to 6 months for antibodies to show up in your blood work. So what showed up in your blood work has already been established. Also it would be a good idea to get the values because if it less than 3.5 there is a 40% chance it could be a false positive. My suggestion would be to get retested in 3 months. Many people have been diagnosed by blood work yet never having any outbreaks or symptoms.

 

For now you will be riding the grieving roller coaster. When I was first diagnosed felt like I was handed the death sentence. Cried every day for long time. One day it hit me....this doesn't define who I am. I am still me, the bubbly girl. Yea, it's shitty to have to deal with it. But Education is power, not the stigma. By reading your first post I took it as you really bought into the stigma because of how paranoid you were of getting herpes. Of coarse no one wants it nor deserves it. And the people walking around claiming to be clean, and they know all the tricks to stay clean are the ones who are more than likely carrying herpes. Learn all you can about herpes. Becoming more confident and separating yourself from the skin condition instead of it defining you. Your sex life is not over by any means. It will just take time to feel comfortable with yourself once again.

 

Far as your symptoms, not to discredit them, when we are in a fragile state the mind, the mind goes in over drive not knowing what is real or false. Try to relax and stop dwelling. Stress its self can cause an outbreak. Did you know men can get yeast infections or bacteria infections? If there is ichiness or burning this could be a possibility.

 

 

[Bambina3]

I agree with some of the above posters, definitely get your numbers....most clinics/labs have a portal you can sign up, and you can view the results on your own...it is very possible you've had hsv2 for years