I disclosed and was not rejected . . . I think

[Optimista]

Hello Everyone,

 

I disclosed after knowing a guy for 9 days and 3 dates and he seems ok with it. Long story short, we went out on a blind date and although there was no chemistry, we had a really nice time and said we’d like to see each other again. A month and a half past with no contact so I decided to reached out to him to see how things were going and we reconnected and hit it off and have been in regular contact. Because of how the relationship seemed to be developing and how the topic of sex would come up, I felt it was important to let him know my HSV-2 status so as not to potentially waste his time. I chose to do it over the phone because a) I felt more comfortable and could use a script b) neither of us was really overly invested in the relationship so I didn’t feel I owed him a face to face. I was extremely nervous but was able to share everything I needed to and to my amazement he was very kind, encouraging and supportive. Having dated a girl previously with herpes he began sharing with me everything he knew about it and said if I was ok with it, he would still like to see me. A huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders and I’m glad that I’m able to explore where the relationship is headed without worrying about disclosing. However, although he hasn’t out right rejected me, I’m not sure if he’s still interested in anything romantic and part of me believes he’s just being kind and will fade away eventually. I guess it remains to be seen if this will be a love connection but I am very appreciative of his initial response.

[MMissouri]

So glad you had a good disclosure. And if he dated a girl prior with it, odds are it won't be a huge issue for him!

[Optimista]

You're right MMissouri, he's absolutely fine with it. We hadn't talked for about 3 days after I disclosed so I was a little worried that he decided to just fade away but he's all in!