When I think I've reached a point of dealing

[Dreamer86]

I recently found out I have herpes. I went to the er and they called two days later and said I had chlamydia. I went to my obgyn to rechecked to make sure it was gone because I had a lot of discharge. Well they did a nuswab and a blood test. The chlamydia was gone but I had herpes. The nuswab came back negative but my blood test came back positive for hsv 2. I asked what the results said and the nurse told me the index was 18.0. I'm not sure if that breaks down into another number. But I never had an outbreak. I was celibate for 3 years then had sex in August and September. Then again with someone new in January. I didn't find out about the herpes until last month. I get to a point where I feel im ok then I think about it and feel like I'm having a mini panic attack. I haven't come to terms yet and I don't know how to live. Help me.

[MMissouri]

Okay, think about this. An index of 18.0 means you've had this for awhile. It hasn't bothered you physically all this time, and odds are you are perhaps asymptomatic or just haven't had anything trigger an outbreak yet. Some people carry it for years (even a lifetime) and never have any symptoms. It was by chance (in my opinion) you even found out you have this.

 

You're in the right place for support and after awhile it will help you with acceptance. Read the forum and learn as much as you can. The more you know, the less it seems for most people. And as you'll find mentioned in many posts, it's not only H, but all the other insecurities that seems to come to the surface after diagnosis, that people need to face. Hang in there.

[Dreamer86]

I wondering wouldn't my doctor have told me back when I had blood work done in 2014. Is that something specific you test for does a blood test come back with everything possible.

[MMissouri]

In most cases you have to request to be tested for it. You will find a lot of people on the forum are shocked when they find out their STD testing did not include herpes. Even if you ask to be tested for everything- there is a good possibility that "everything" did not include herpes. Once you get into the information on this website, you'll be amazed at the facts.

 

 

[Dreamer86]

I'm just so freaked because it seems my obgyn didn't give me any useful information. He said well you've never had an outbreak so you don't have to worry about one. He suggested the antiviral only if I wanted to have sex. I read all these things and they say stress can trigger an outbreak. My sister has herpes but she's younger and I feel so shame to talk about it with her. I've decided to take it to my grave but I feel like I'm going crazy. I decided a career and my son will be it for me. I don't even want to create a life right now. Should the person I had unprotected sex with in the past couple of months go get tested as well.

[MMissouri]

Stress is a good cause of outbreaks, yes. But that doesn't guarantee that you will have one if you are asymptomatic. I've been stressed to the max for quite a few years and haven't had anything happen. I've had this for awhile though, and it eases with time.

 

You don't have to be ashamed to talk about it here. Vent away. Join in some of the posts. Check out the Herpes buddy thread. There's nothing wrong with focusing on your career and your son at that moment, but don't cut yourself off from possibilities.

 

As far as your recent sex partner- did you disclose to them? If they already know, then they should get tested for their knowledge. But that's really up to them.

[Dreamer86]

No I didn't disclose. I told him he gave me chlamydia which he did but I never told him about the herpes he apologized for the chlamydia and we still talk but he doesn't know. My best friend knows but I don't think she really understands that I can't help but talk about it because I need to understand it.