My story

[Nygirl12901]

I was diagnosed about 1 year ago. I have been married for 12 years to a husband who was constantly unfaithful. We are going to be divorced soon. So, I ran every test I possibly could and was diagnosed through bloodwork with HSV2. I have never had an outbreak (and yes I know it isn't just lesions on your genitals). I chose to take daily valtrex even though my doctor said it wasn't necessary. I am so depressed and sad about this. I feel embarrassed and ashamed. I recently met someone I like so I was open and honest with him about it. He has now backed way off. He said he needs time to process which I respect. But I feel like this will always happen....they will run for the hills when I tell them. I don't know how to make him understand that yes there are risks but we could make it work. I am at a loss.

[optimist]

@Nygirl12901 I had the same experience, learning of my status through testing that I did for peace of mind because I learned my former spouse had been having unprotected sex with me over an extended period of time while having sex with others. That is not to say I got it from him; I'll never know how and when I got it. I also take daily Valtrex and my doctor had the same opinion but supported my choice (unlike the nurse practitioner who gave me all kinds of misinformation).

 

I'm sorry the guy you were dating has backed off. If it hasn't been too long yet, he may well just be taking time to process. I think that's pretty common. If so, I think giving him space is more likely to help than trying to convince him.

 

Not everyone will run for the hills. In fact, I think the majority will not. That has been my experience so far and I have heard the same from others in my friend group and on the Internet.