What if I gave him Herpes?

[vividlife67]

Hello,

 

So I posted a little while back about my partner going back and forth about using condoms or not, and we talked and have gotten a lot closer, and he said he was comfortable going without. I'm on daily suppressive therapy.

Wednesday, he told me he thinks he has "the flu". Fever, aches, upset stomach. I remember the fever and aches I got when I had my first outbreak (I thought I had the flu too). I'm really worried that I may have given him herpes. He has not said anything about genital symptoms or actual sores. I haven't had any outbreaks in quite a while, and have been taking Valtrex daily.

I know he knew the risk as did I with not using condoms, but I don't know how to handle it if I gave him herpes. Do men generally have the same symptoms with a first outbreak? Has anyone else had the flu-like symptoms for the first outbreak?

I will feel awful if I gave it to him, even though I know that even if we used protection AND daily meds, it was always a possibility. Anyone had experience with giving an informed partner Herpes?

[hadvocate]

I can relate to this 100% Every time my boyfriend gets sick I feel so concerned that i finally gave it to him :( The chances are so low if you are taking daily suppressant antiviral treatment which I do too. 2% is low! Its only a 1% difference if they use a condom or not.. I try to remind myself of that.