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I disclosed to someone I was dating last year and he rejected me (later I realized it was much too soon and he really wasn't as into me as he was "getting" into me). I recently reached out to someone I dated years ago about his opinion of me disclosing to him. I had to know if he felt it was too soon and how he genuinely felt. This man and I dated for five months and I chose to disclose because he was very attracted to me and he also asked me to spend the night with him- asking if I wanted to make love. I hadn't yet disclosed to him at that point and I really wasn't ready for a sexual relationship. Few weeks later I disclosed to him and he was very understanding.


This was his reply to me:


I appreciated the fact that you told me about it. Being upfront and direct says a lot about the sincerity of a person. I felt compassion and empathetic about it. I told you how I felt at that moment; my attraction for you was very evident and I enjoyed being with you. No, the information wasn't rushed by any means. It was perfect when you brought it up to my attention. You're a great woman. Will always be in my mind. I hope this humble view of mine helps you see your own great heart.


His response absolutely made my heart smile. I realized that disclosing to someone means you trust the person and feel comfortable being vulnerable. I believe a person has to be worthy of such a disclosure and allow time to reveal who he or she really is. You'll know when you meet that person! I firmly believe being open and honest and after this humble view, I don't feel ashamed anymore. Just depends on the person and their level of maturity.




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