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I'm 22 years old and found out about 8 months ago that I have HSV2. I waiting 21 long years to lose my virginity, not because I wanted the dreamy first time. I just wanted it to be right, the way I wanted it to happen, with someone I was comfortable with. I met a guy at a club, I just turned 21 at the time and was juuuuust getting out to having fun. Anywho, I met this guy and lost my virginity within a month of meeting him. My mom says he charmed the pants right off of me. Our first time he tried to "stick it in" without a condom, and an alarm went off in my head, like, "oh no bro, put a jacket on that thing!" So he did and we did the dirty haha. About a few days after that I was feeling pretty gnarly. I became seriously sick, could barely walk because my lymph nodes in my groin were so swollen, and I thought I had strep, my throat was so raw and painful and spotty. I began it itchy something AWFUL down below and began to worry. I immediately thought, "aw man I've got herpes" I was so scared to get tested and was hoping it was just a bacterial infection or something. Well, the pain had gotten so bad I went to the hospital and got a pap done and tested, and sure enough HSV2 had reared its ugly head. On my vulva and cervix. (Sorry for the details) I broke down immediately. I was hysterical, I felt like I was going to die!


I thought my life was over. Devastated and panicking my friend hugged me and even the nurse did. I had called my bf and told him and his response was rather, odd. He didn't seem as upset as I was, but then again he's a man. It was the worst moment of my life. I had told my mom and she was disgusted in me. Very upset and hurt. Which is understandable. She was worrie about catching it from the toilet seat! So I had to live with a friend for a while, while I recovered. I was getting so much support from my friends it was unbelievable. Then a month later, BAM!! I'm pregnant. Now I have a beautiful 7 month old son. Had a c section with him. Not because of an outbreak but due to complications. That was a terrifying experience. Then move in with the father, guy who gave me the herp derp, and the skeletons began jumping out of the closet. I mean these skeletons couldn't wait to throw a karma party of his past. Turns out he had lied about his age, he said he was 25, WRONG, he was 31. Found out he had cheated on me, well found "sexy" texts in his phone while I battled post partum depression. Things got physical like 2 weeks after I had our son. Had to get a restraining order.


Things went downhill after that. I may have gotten off track there for a little bit. But to sum it up, I was 21, lost my virginity, got herpes, got pregnant, got cheated on, was physically and sexually abused, and now I'm living back home with my mother with my awesome kid. Haha. I still have issues sometimes with having HSV2 but I'm becoming more comfortable. It's so common and the facts are very misconstrued. I know that I will find someone awesome that will accept me for ALL my baggage. I went back to my ex many many many times. I am a very understanding person, so I'm just waiting for my chance to be understood. Btw, I freaking love this forum. All the beautiful stories I get to read, and meet such awesome people. I'm glad I joined because this site helps a lot. Knowing I'm not the only one who got the crappy end of the stick, but also that there's a light at the end of this deep, dark, and very itchy, tunnel. We're in this together, this is my first post and I already feel like family. Any one care to share their story, opinion, advice? I'd love to hear it. And thanks for reading.

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Hiya! Thank you so much for sharing your story. You bet we're in this together! Who knew a skin condition could be the impetus for bringing people together in such a powerful way. You've been through so much...it would be pretty easy to play the victim, but you're not! I find that very inspiring. And congratulations on having your beautiful son. He's exactly the same age as my little nephew....SOOOO fun! Much love to you xo

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Thank you so much Becky! Yeah it's still an up and down battle but I can't feel sorry for myself all of the time. It's very common and most people don't even know they have it! I have faith that I will find someone who will accept me for me but until then, I'll just work on what I need to work on for me and the right person will come along. Yeah, my son is the greatest! He was the greatest thing that came out of that relationship. He is such a blessing! When's your nephews bday?

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You know what, even through all the pain and heartache and how you were treated, I imagine you're a stronger person because of it. Yes, it's cliché, but has a lot of truth to it. It reminds me that even through life's pain, we get the decision on how that pain is going to change us: For the better or for the worse. It sounds like you are allowing it to change you for the better, even when it hurts, even when it's hard. That's courage.


And wow, your mom being worried about getting herpes from the toilet seat? ;) Just shows us how far we have to go to get the most basic of herpes facts and figures out there. I'm so glad you joined and have shared yourself here. All of those beautiful stories you have read? You're contributing to them. And I imagine someone out there will read yours and be able to relate, healing them in the process. So thank you for your transparency and for continuing to live from your heart even when your ex wasn't living so fully from his.

Note: This is for informational purposes only. This information does not constitute medical advice or diagnosis.
I'm not a medical professional, so please take this as friendly peer support. 

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Herpesaurus... I can just tell you're a bright, smart, funny and strong woman from the way you tell your tale and the tone of your writing. You are going to bounce back from this- in fact, you already have. You are awesome and inspirational.

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