How Do I Tell Him?

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A little background on my herpes story... I found out I had genital HSV-1 in April of 2015 from having an outbreak. I had two more outbreaks after that both in May of 2015; I have not had one since then. I have only disclosed to one person since I found out and he was very understanding and didn't care at all, but he was someone I've known for 8 years and we had reconnected. I have begun dating again, this will be the first time I tell someone that I haven't known for very long.

 

I go to school in Iowa and I met this guy through a mutual friend that goes to another school in Iowa. We have been talking for a month and a half. We have both visited each other at our respective universities. This past weekend we both had way too much to drink and we ended up having unprotected sex, twice. I graduate in two weeks and am moving back to Illinois while he will still be in school 5 1/2 hours away. We are not officially together and have not talked about the future much. It seems that both he and I are wanting to try and make this work after I move back home.

 

I had wanted to tell him before I saw him this weekend, but ultimately I didn't. I feel guilty, ashamed, and heart-broken over what happened. I am a good person and didn't do this on purpose. I know the right thing to do is to tell him. And I know it's going to be hard. I am looking for some support and guidance on what to say. I have been trying to write down what to say... I don't want it to be too long, but I want to give him all the information.