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New to this site, New to the H, and riding a rollercoaster. Please help.

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I was diagnosed with “the H” exactly a month ago, I am 27 years old. I decided after a month to request a membership at a forum so I would not feel so alone, so I could realize there were others out there that have gone through the same fears, the same emotions, the same joys.


It has been a rollercoaster.


I contracted “the H” from someone I was seeing, in a matter of 5 days my life changed completely and I knew. I immediately told him and he acted surprised and went and got tested for a week he did not answer any of my messages or texts, finally he did and we spoke about it face to face and he claimed he had it for a while but never got symptoms, I could not believe my luck that I would be the first one to have ever contracted this virus from him and been the ONLY one who had told him.


I feel happy because I do not have a terminal illness but mainly I feel sad at my choice to not guard my sexuality and now the person who gave me this gift is just being left in the past, we have mutual friends but no longer is he after me the way he was a few weeks ago. Somehow I wish he was so maybe we could face this on together, but I guess since he just found out his diagnosis too he is going through his own emotions.


I want to know if any of you have any advice on how I can close this chapter and heal and come to terms with what happened. Any advice on vitamins and any food to avoid. But mainly how to not psychologically fall into this skin disease and let it consume my life.


Also, I seem to be getting small herpes outbreaks once a week, luckily my outbreak is one to three small papercuts that heal within four days. I also immediately take Valtrex but I am considering on getting on suppression therapy, any of you that have dealt with this in the first year opted for suppressive therapy. My first OB was also just one lesion, a lot of back pain and muscle aches. That is about it, I am grateful and so blessed I do not have a horror story….yet, is this as bad as it might get....also I am on pre-natals, biotin, l-lysine and olive leaf extract.=(

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Hi KV63! Welcome to our community of healing. :) You know, the phrase that jumps out at me is "any advice on how I can close this chapter and heal and come to terms with what happened." You'll see a lot on this forum and the herpeslife.com blog the idea of the only way to heal is to go through whatever is right here in front of you. "Closing a chapter" has a sense of pushing away what is. Rejecting it. And that only has whatever needs to be experienced to be pushed down further. There is no closing of the chapter. It will close on its own when it's ready to close. That's the healing process. Let go of how it should be and allow it for what it is. Check out these blog articles:




As far as your specific questions regarding herpes medication and herpes treatment, check out these blog articles for more on that:




You're going to be okay. I promise. You will grow and heal and accept. Time, support and love from a community is what will help you through this. Have you considered coming to the weekend seminar? http://thehopp.com

Note: This is for informational purposes only. This information does not constitute medical advice or diagnosis.
I'm not a medical professional, so please take this as friendly peer support. 

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