So lost and so many questions

[soconfusednc]

Hey everyone, not even sure where to start. I received a call yesterday saying I had tested positive for Hsv2. This all started last week. I had this nerve pain in my right butt cheek and in my right leg and my right side of my labia. I also felt like I had the worst UTI ever. I automatically look to see why and no signs of anything. I called my doctor and she treated me for a UTI but insisted I needed to be tested for HERPES. I was like I don’t have blisters or discharge what are you talking about. So she did a blood test and called me yesterday. Needless to say the nerve pain is gone every where but this pain in my labia is aweful and I think I now have the blisters that have popped. Long story short she put me on 7 days of Acyclovir 800mg 5 times a day. This is all so crazy. I had to tell my boyfriend of 4 years and he was not so nice. I have worked in the medical field for 16 years and at 42 have never had a STD not more than 4 yeast infections in my life. Being a single mom I am so scared to be alone and so depressed. So many in answered questions. Looking to meet anyone who has experience or can just talk.

[4ever]

Hi, I have no experience but I just wanted to share I got the call on the 25th of July this year. Meaning on Friday. My 21st birthday will be Nov. 18... I would have never thought that I’d be diagnosed with Herpes before hitting the age of 21. I have no children but I do have a boyfriend of one month and a half whom I strongly believe gave me Herpes. Everyday and night since Friday I have been thinking and thinking because I don’t know how to live anymore. How do I forgive him? How do I move on? Should I stay? Or should I walk away because all I feel is resentment towards him. He didn’t tell me his ex had herpes until three days after having unprotected sex with me. He told me being that he was exposed he checked himself every 3 months to make sure he was clean. He told me he was happy he dodged the bullet “each and every time”. Yet, once I was diagnosed with HSV2 he admitted he only got checked once the entire time because he “didn’t have symptoms”. You have your children that can hug you every night that you feel lonely. I have no one but my parents to help me get through this and even so, I feel helpless, ashamed, betrayed and lost.

[soconfusednc]

Sweety I do get where you are coming from. My children are your age and my biggest fear was them contacting something like this never in a hundred years did I think it would be me. I do know you can have children and not harm them you would just have to have a csection. I am so sorry you are having to go through any of this. Unfortunately it is hard to feel like you can talk to anyone when we are given this diagnosis. My doctor assures me that if we take the Meds we can still have relationships and that we are not bad people. So please just know your not alone. You need this guy to be honest with you and be checked. 

[mstanya1234]

17 minutes ago, soconfusednc said:

Sweety I do get where you are coming from. My children are your age and my biggest fear was them contacting something like this never in a hundred years did I think it would be me. I do know you can have children and not harm them you would just have to have a csection. I am so sorry you are having to go through any of this. Unfortunately it is hard to feel like you can talk to anyone when we are given this diagnosis. My doctor assures me that if we take the Meds we can still have relationships and that we are not bad people. So please just know your not alone. You need this guy to be honest with you and be checked. 

@soconfusednc

How long have you had it! I know I have a 23 year old and I fussed at him about people saying his gf had and all along I had It myself! I’m 43 and found out when I was 41

[soconfusednc]

I just found out yesterday by the positive blood test. My out break started last Tuesday. My oldest is 22 and just had a baby girl six weeks ago. My oldest son is 20 and my third child is 17 and my baby is 13. I fuss at my kids all the time to practice safe sex and I have always and then I find out it’s me. I have cried and cried and asked why and just feel like I am crazy. These meds they have given me are aweful with side effects but I feel like I need to take them.