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I just found out+ Im in a new 2 month relationship

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Im in a new relationship, 2 months in. We were having unprotected sex. About 5 days ago I found open painful areas on my genitals including on my clitoris. I went to the dr was diagnosed and started on Valtrex. The pain is so bad. Whats worse is the Dr told me since I had flu like symptoms, enlarged lymph nodes and a fever this was my first infection and my partner infected me.

I dont know how to address it with my partner. We are in love, even spoken about marriage and moving in together but he has a temper. My worry is he will deny giving it to me, be angry/aggressive and perhaps even disclose my status publicly. When should I tell him? Face to face or on the phone? 

I never had any symptoms before I really believe he infected me. I am angry, scared, in pain and hopeless. Any advice would be appreciated.


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Hi Confused1984

Wow really sorry to hear about your worries!

It clearly seems like he has passed this to you.
When you say he has a temper, hopefully you don't mean he is violent towards you.
In my humble opinion, someone who is aggressive towards you, Is not marriage material.

I think it may be best you call him by phone, stay calm & tell him you have something to talk to him about.
Tell him you have been diagnosed & your Dr has said you have recently been infected.
Then see what his response is. If he turns nasty, I think that's a big red flag!
Of course it is possible that he may not know he has H.

good luck, hope it goes well

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