I gave my partner of 5 years herpes. I WANT TO DIE

[tragic]

I had a partner of 5 years. I say had because we are no longer together. I made his sick. It was all my fault becuase I pressured him to have sex without a condom. He knew I had Herpes but he trusted me....now he hates me. I want to kill myself. If I didn't have children, I would!

[tragic]

How do I live with myself, how do I apologize? I'm now dying inside and I think I should outside too!!!

[Judith]

Hi Tragic,

 

sorry that this happend to you and your partner but before you were honest to him , he knew that he can contract herpes from you.Please dont say that you wanne kill yourself,this can happen to everyone who have herpes and you told him before, there is nothing else you could have done better.I know that you fell like crap but you both need to talk about it,this have noting to do with trust.........he know himself that he could contracted it ,its absolutely not your fault.15-20 percent of all people have herpes so he could contracted it from everybody he sleep with.So long you have sex you have the change to get genital diseases.I am not sure if he talk with you at moment but he maybe will soon , when he is over the first shock.We all know how the first outbreal felt and how shoked we were, give him a little bit time.I hope you will speak to him sonn .Big hug and please dont do anything rashly....all will get better in time.big hug

[tragic]

He hates me!

[mr_hopp]

Hi Tragic! Please don't kill yourself. It's just herpes. Just a skin rash. You can't take full responsibility for giving him herpes. You told him and it was just as much his responsibility to be safe as was your responsibility to keep him safe. That's the whole point of having the herpes talk, so that both partners can take responsibility for safety. Now that he got herpes, he's blaming you completely for it? Is he taking any responsibility in this situation?