Today I disclosed for the first time

[MarieH]

I disclosed to a man today. He wasn't an important man, we had gone out a one date and when I found out I had H i cut him off. "ghosted him" as the term is. I know it wasn't the right thing to do, I texted him last week about apologizing for that and simply stated that "I was going through something".

He follows up a week later and asks what's wrong. So....I told him. It was okay, I was not very invested as I didn't know him well but I did it. I disclosed and the world didn't end. I can do it again, I will be more nervous when it is someone I have developed feelings for but just the same thing again.

I think I might be able to do this. I'm not ready to date and am 100% NOT looking to right now but the point is when I am ready it's just not as big of deal as I thought to disclose. 

I wish my infector had disclosed to me, I will never ever do that to anyone. It's not so much just a skin disease but first exposure makes you very sick, which I am still going through.   

[xxavier098]

was he accepting or what was his reaction?

[Amando]

That's great, always good to get your first disclosure out the way.

8 hours ago, MarieH said:

I think I might be able to do this. I'm not ready to date and am 100% NOT looking to right now but the point is when I am ready it's just not as big of deal as I thought to disclose.    

Damn right you can do it 🙂

You are right, it is harder when you care about the person because if rejected it hurts a lot more,
I prefer that way to early disclosure though but each to their own!

When you are ready to date, you will be 100% OK

Good luck moving forward

[MarieH]

his reaction lol....he said "well that's not good" and that's all. So my first official rejection over with as well BUT as stated. He doesn't mean anything to me, I mostly told him because he was really into me and I didn't want him to think he was Idk.....being blown off and then be nervous to show interest in someone for fear of it happening again. So I mostly did it trying to be nice, also it was a good practice run for when I like someone. If it's the first disclosure and first rejection of someone I care about: man that would have stung a little.