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Please help with my story. Who do you think I caught herpes from?

Guy 1 been together 5 years. In these 5 years I’ve never had sores down below herpes symptoms. I have sometimes been a little uncomfortable from thrush and after sex. Guy 1 once had to go to doctors because his penis swelled on one side and his lymph node was enlarged. He had no sores though. The doc said it was prob a bacterial infection and it cleared in a few days. Another time after sex straight away with in half hour his penis became sore in one spot and was red but we think this was due to sex with no foreplay. I have not had symptoms. 
Guy 2. I split from guy one for 3 weeks and had a one night stand with someone who’s sexual history I do not know. It was unprotected. 
I got back with guy 1. Before I got back with guy 1 the day before I had a awful outbreak which was 23 days after my one night stand with guy 2. I didn’t know it was an outbreak as thought just a cut from shaving. Started sleeping with guy 1 again with my sore 😞  after a week of having my sore I went and got tested and was positive for herpes :(. 
Guy 1 stayed with me. Then 9 weeks after I was diagnosed I said to guy 1 maybe you should get tested. He agreed. He hasn’t had any symptoms at all! He had a blood test and his index value was 8 after about 9.5 weeks. 
Now my question is did I get herpes from guy 1? Did he cheat on me in these 5 years And I was just unlucky to have my first outbreak during a split? (But why did I have no symptoms in 5 years together? Why hasn’t he had a outbreak of new infection? Was the swelling of his penis 3 years ago herpes?)
Did I catch herpes from guy 2 because I had my first outbreak 23 days after having unprotected sex with him and passed it onto guy 1 when back together when I was having a outbreak? 
Since my first outbreak I’ve had regular ones. 
Altho people say your first outbreak is within 2-10 days?? So is 23 days to late for a new infection? I say 23 but this is when I first noticed my sores. They say first outbreak can last 2-3 weeks. 
Please help I’m worried if it came from guy 1 he could have cheated? Altho I have no reason to believe that. Who did I catch herpes from guy 1 or guy 2?? Help 

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