Relationship advice ghsv1

[22younggirl]

I’m 22 years old female and I was just diagnosed with Genital HSV 1. About a month ago. At first I felt like my life was over, I was in a 6 month relationship with my gifter. I’m so upset with myself because I should’ve known he was no good for me and there was so many red flags. This has been so hard for me because I want to be in a happy loving relationship with my ex prior to him that I was in a relationship with for 2 years. I disclosed to him about my diagnosis and he’s been supportive of me and says he still loves me and sees a future with me. But I’m afraid since we’re so young he’s gonna just leave me one day and find a girl who doesn’t have this. We haven’t had sex since before my diagnosis. I’m honestly scared because I love him so much and I don’t want to transmit it to him I would be so hurt. What advice do you guys have for ghsv1 positives like myself? is anyone here in a long term relationship with someone that doesn’t have ghsv1 as well? Are there any women out there with ghsv1 that transmitted it to there partners or haven’t? I want to hear other people stories. And I need some guidance please. Thank you.

[22younggirl]

Someone please respond /:

[herpnerve]

Well, first things first you can’t assume he doesn’t already have HSV1. Ask him to get tested. There’s a chance he already gets cold sores and therefore the risk to transmitting it genitally is greatly reduced. 

Try taking antiviral to help reduce risk of transmission, use condoms, and be vigilant of potential outbreaks.

i also recommend trying to eat as healthy as possible and try to increase lysine in your diet. Think about potentially taking supplements. Though these aren’t factors that 100% are proven to reduce transmission, they reduce peoples break outs which likely also reduces shedding.

all of these combined can greatly reduce transmission, and with ghsv1 it’s likely that you will shed minimally anyhow. If he accepts you, he accepts the risk. You can take the steps above to prevent transmission but he is accepting the risk if he is staying with you which is a good thing!