Keeping Your Better Half HSV Negative

[Amando]

Just thought I had recently (yes it did hurt! 😆) 

I have been with my GF for 6 years plus (apart from a 9 month split last year) but I have never passed it to her.

But & its a very big but...…….

How do I know for sure that I have not passed it to her?

Sure she gets yearly blood tests, but as most of us know, blood tests are inconclusive & can be wrong!

So it is possible that she could have it & be asymptomatic.

[SeraLyn]

Probably. or she really may not have it.  I think until an episode happens, assume she's HSV-

I found out via a pap smear - it's uncommon but happens.  

[Amando]

Yep I do assume she is HSV negative but I was just putting it out there!

[Tamk1]

Can anyone give me some clarity, number, percentages lol of this horrible thing. I get the awesome experience (as I'm sure we all have/will) of telling my ex who is hopefully going to be my again girlfriend this upcoming weekend when I go see her that i have hsv2. I got it the year we were apart but i know to not have sex during ob and to wear a condom and I take 500mg of acyclovir for suppression

 Can some one give me some ammo for my very tough convo...thanks in advance:)

[Arcook]

Sorry to sideline this topic a bit but it’s relavent in a round about way. My husband is H2 positive and I am not. We have (had ) an open relationship and he just contracted it 6 months ago. He is not taking anti suppressants and while I am negative I’m just assuming I’m positive because eventually it’s bound to happen. My question is this and I’m so sorry for being blunt but if I’m under the assumption that I have it does that mean that I can give him oral herpes if he has oral sex with me? 

We haven’t been having sex at all because I keep getting conflicting answers and we’re aftaid of just making it worse for each other 😕

[Tamk1]

On 3/25/2019 at 1:33 PM, Arcook said:

Sorry to sideline this topic a bit but it’s relavent in a round about way. My husband is H2 positive and I am not. We have (had ) an open relationship and he just contracted it 6 months ago. He is not taking anti suppressants and while I am negative I’m just assuming I’m positive because eventually it’s bound to happen. My question is this and I’m so sorry for being blunt but if I’m under the assumption that I have it does that mean that I can give him oral herpes if he has oral sex with me? 

We haven’t been having sex at all because I keep getting conflicting answers and we’re aftaid of just making it worse for each other 😕

I'm confused...you're assuming you have it? If you do have it then yes...hsv1 or 2 can be transmitted fro. Either mouth to genitsls or Visa versa. If he goes down on you and you have an outbreak or even have the virus he is rolling the dice. If you dont have an outbreak down there and are on suppressive meds daily the odds are much lower but still...you either get herpes 100% or you dont 0%....so always a gamble. Make sense?

 

Also if he has it on his mouth or oral and goes down on you then for sure you are rolling the dice on getting it down there. Your call if you dont have it now and are assuming you will get it from him...that's love. I would be doing a lot of precautionary things to prevent it....take it from someone who has it. Not fun...

[Arcook]

Yes I’m going with the “I don’t have it now, but assuming I will in the future”.... but also trying to take as many precautions as possible.