To test or not

[Confusedsinglemom]

So I posted earlier about being exposed to HSV1 and HSV2 by my boyfriend. I went to see my gyn and she said I don’t have any symptoms and that she doesn’t recommend anyone getting the blood test without symptoms. Would not even order it. So I was originally going to go to planned parenthood after a couple months to get the test, but I am so scared to get tested. I guess I know I have to, but there’s some comfort in ignorance you know? How did you overcome your fear and get tested? 

 

I keep running through scenarios of if I test positive for HSV1, I’ve never had a cold sore before and my children eat and drink after me all the time. Never thought twice about it. If I’m positive, I could never allow them to drink after me, kiss them. I couldn’t risk it with them. 

 

Also, as an aside, how do I discuss wanting to protect myself with my boyfriend. I have mentioned wanting to use condoms and he told me that condoms do not really offer protection so abstinence is the only way to go. Of course later that night we both had some wine and ended up having unprotected sex again. I just feel like he’s maybe guilting me into not using a condom by basically saying it’s either unprotected or none at all 

[hope27]

Well since you know you have been exposed its better to get your blood tested after 3 or 4 months of exposure unless you get any symptoms. 

Also its not true that condom can not protect it. Usage of condom, anti viral therapy and no sex during out break or signs of out break can stop the prevention. There are many success stories of couples where one is hsv negative. 

Not sure if I can comment on your bfs decision of not using protection. Since you are the one who is negative, in my opinion it should be your decision whether to use protection or not. 

[Tk2019]

You can get a blood test through any commercial lab that offers it. Your doctor doesn't have to order it. I wouldn't worry too much about hsv 1 because most people acquire it during childhood. I have it and have never had a cold sore in my life. 

As far as your bf not respecting your wishes to protect yourself... all I can say is yikes...

[Confusedsinglemom]

I found a place to get tested already. Just need to wait a few more weeks I think. Only been a little over 4 weeks from first exposure