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Botched disclosure, need a kind word

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Hey community,

I botched a disclosure the other night with someone who I really liked. I can’t see straight through the situation so I’m looking for some perspective, or a kind word, so I can move forward. 

We had been talking for a while and went over to his house on the first date, I had asked just to cuddle. Suddenly it’s getting hot and I panicked and disclosed mid-heat. Turns out he was quite tipsy and we just went to cuddling. Next day I sent him a text saying some of the things I should have said- “it’s no big deal, never been an issue” blah blah. He responded quickly saying all’s well, but haven’t heard from him in a bit. 

It’s not my first disclosure but I can’t seem to move forward, given how much I liked this person. Looking for a kind word, hard to explain to my H- friends. 

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Hi Cerul

So sorry for your pain!

Totally know how you feel & know how much it hurts.

In my opinion you can not botch a disclosure however way you have done it, of course there are better ways of doing it
but at the end of the day, you are telling the person, being honest & giving them the choice & that's all you can do.
So don't be hard on yourself for the way you told him, if he is that great a guy he would still be there.

Maybe after a while of digesting it, he may get in touch, you never know.

It sucks big time when its someone you are really into, I still feel pain when I think about my rejection but these things
only make us grow stronger.

You will find another great person & you will find happiness!

Good luck & Big Hugs


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I'm on the same road leading to the same situation. Recently met someone who is just simply amazing and I know I will have to disclose soon ... AAGHH

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