Much more success with disclosing than the opposite

[Ida.From.North]

I just need to share this, for whoever needs to hear it at the moment! I´ve had many more experiences with disclosing and having my partner still choosing the be with me, than the opposite. The only two times I´ve been rejected was when meeting someone from a more sexually oriented forum, as opposed to "normal" dating. My key is to be very relaxed and casual about it, yet being straightforward. Herpes is a teacher to me. About patience, discernment, maturity, honesty, self-love, and it helps me see all the places where is still fear rejection, feel undesirable, etc. This emotions don´t really come from herpes to begin with, i can trace them back to when I was a little girl. I absolutely have moments of feeling terrified, shameful, etc. But it is with honesty and gratitude that I see how much this is serving me, in making better choices for my self. More conscious choices in choosing right partners, taking care of my health, and so on. I only had painful outbreaks the first year (6years ago), after that it´s been close to nothing. A little red, itchy, soar spot every now and then when I´m very stressed, or when my immune-system is low. Then I get the hint to take care of myself, get some rest and nutrition. I´m very much aware of what I put into my body, and use yoga, meditation and exercise as a way of staying aligned and healthy. And of course self-development, to have my mind in the right place. This helps prevent breakouts. Also; oregano-oil! ❤️ I´m a sexy fucking fierce woman, who happens to have a tiny little virus from a few years back. It´s OK. People are being rejected for all kinds of issues. Rejection is part of life for most people, with our without HSV. I don´t want to minimize the feelings, pain and stigma around herpes, I know it can be a brutal bitch. Still tought, there is many ways to see it, it all comes down to me belief-system, and it´s my choice to be empowered or a victim. 

 

[hope27]

Thanks for sharing your experience. These kind of positive experiences helps us to get motivated and look into the positive sides.