[Girlfriend has hsv-2 and doesn't take daily antivirals]

I see, thanks for your guys feedback, it's still pretty confusing.

[Girlfriend has hsv-2 and doesn't take daily antivirals]

10 minutes ago, Elle27 said:

Hi Nevadaboy- It’s an individuals choice on whether or not she decides to take antivirals and a choice you make together. If she doesn’t have many outbreaks she doesn’t necessarily have to be on antivirals. You have to be aware of the risks. No condoms or antivirals the risk of transmission from females to males is 4% without any protection, rate of transmission with condoms is 2%, risk of transmission with use of condoms and antivirals is 1%. The doctor she saw isn’t wrong. There are risks with any medication. Generally antivirals for herpes are safe but there can still be some long term risks. I choose not to take antivirals at this time. I took them for my initial outbreak but not ongoing. 

Thanks for the answer Elle27, it's good to have a different opinion,

I see. I understand it's her choice. I think I am fine with the risks with or without antivirals. I was aware of these statistics. However, I rather her doctor or her explaining how the medics are far from being perfect than downplaying their impact on reducing transmission risks. I really hope she didn't just bend the truth because she didn't want to take the medics. I kind of like her.

[Girlfriend has hsv-2 and doesn't take daily antivirals]

Thanks for the detailed answer Ishmael,

Yes, she told me just before having vaginal sex, but we were already naked and doing things - orals, rubbing each other genitals, and when I start running my genital against hers she then told me. I wish she had told me a bit sooner, but I can see being a hard talk.

I didn't knew it was such a clear cut. I guess the best course of action is to see another doctor for a 2nd opinion like you advise. I wish she didn't lie to me, I can see that being a bigger deal breaker for me than hsv-2 without antivirals itself.

 

[Girlfriend has hsv-2 and doesn't take daily antivirals]

Hi,

We've been dating for a month or 2, and my girlfriend told me she had hsv-2 on her genitals when we started having sex.

I think I am globally okay with the risks. I went to get tested and I still test negative to every STDs including hsv-1 and hsv-2. I asked them what to do to minimize risks beside using condoms, and they told me taking daily suppressive antivirals helps reducing transmission odds in a significant manner. I've asked my girlfriend if she does and she told she doesn't take them. I've asked her if she can ask her doctor about them. She did, and her doctor says because she has only a couple of outbreaks / year, taking daily antivirals is not a good idea as it might mess up her immune system while not really impacting transmission risks.

Is that a common thing or a doctor is just bad? What you will be your advices?

Thanks!

PS: In Dallas, TX if that changes anything.