[Herpes transmission questions (genital HSV-1)]

Thank you guys so much!

[Herpes transmission questions (genital HSV-1)]

Hey guys!

I have been living with H for 3 months now and I recently met someone. I did my research but I haven't found answers for everything. 

I have HSV-1 genitally. Can someone go down on me without protection ( I'm a woman) without the risk of me  transmitting it to them and vice versa ?  Can I cuddle in my underwear or is it not safe? And this is a bit embarrassing but can someone finger me without protection or should we use gloves or something? 

I haven't been intimate with someone since i found out and even before,  it was only with 1 guy for  few times so I am new to this like completely. Any help is appreciated

 Thanks