[She disclosed to me, I accepted, but ...]

I have been dating someone for a month now, she have disclosed to me that she do have H2, i have accepted it. But, unfortunately because she wants to protect me from it, she has chosen to not move unto a relationship with me (or anyone else) if or when the times comes. I have known her for 10 years, from my friendship with her sister and brother in law.  We also have dated and been together 5 years ago, so i have developed very strong feelings for this girl. She is a very sexual person and i have developed that way while with her as well. She's determined that this will ruin my life and i will regret it. But, like i said i do accept it with what it is. I would like to convince her that it is okay if that situation happened. I do not have H. I do not want to force her on a decision, she do not want. With her not wanting me to get it shows she cares for me very much. We will stay friends as i want her to stay in my life, i was looking forward it being a life with me. 

 

Thanks for anyone that replies, even though i dont have H, i was unsure if that was the proper place to post this story. Any advice is appreciated.

[H broke my heart but opened my mind, grateful]

I have been dating someone for a month now, she have disclosed to me that she do have H2, i have accepted it. But, unfortunately because she wants to protect me from it, she has chosen to not move unto a relationship with me (or anyone else) if or when the times comes. I have known her for 10 years, from my friendship with her sister and brother in law.  We also have dated and been together 5 years ago, so i have developed very strong feelings for this girl. She is a very sexual person and i have developed that way while with her as well. She's determined that this will ruin my life and i will regret it. But, like i said i do accept it with what it is. I would like to convince her that it is okay if that situation happened. I do not have H. I do not want to force her on a decision, she do not want. With her not wanting me to get it shows she cares for me very much. We will stay friends as i want her to stay in my life, i was looking forward it being a life with me. 

 

Thanks for anyone that replies, even though i dont have H, i was unsure if that was the proper place to post this story. Any advice is appreciated.

[I disclosed. He accepted. But I dont feel worthy.]

19 hours ago, Brynby said:

Hello

I am currently dating someone Who i have been with 5 years. She has told me she do have H2. We both have feelings for each other, she has told me the decision for us to move onto a relationship is mine.  I dont want to get it and She is terrified that i will get it, i care so much about her. i dont want to lose our relationship over this, any advice on what to do or say?

 

Thank you for reply

This suppose to say 5 years ago, we only started talking again a month ago

[I disclosed. He accepted. But I dont feel worthy.]

26 minutes ago, DoesntDefineMe said:

I’d like to start off by saying kudos to her for being brave and having the courage to disclose to you. I can tell you from experience that it is a very hard thing to do especially when you are developing feelings for someone. Let me lay out some numbers for you to explain the transmission rates. Without taking antivirals or using a condom, there is a 4% chance of transmission. With antiviral medication that percentage drops to 2%. With antivirals and a condom, 1%. Birth control is the same deal, there’s a 1% chance you can get pregnant on birth control. Nothing is ever 100% effective. I honestly think that if you care for this girl, which it seems like you do since you are doing your research, then don’t let this come between you. It doesn’t define her. And with her knowing she has this and disclosing, she is doing more than some people would to protect you. Sex with anyone is a risk, I say go for it for someone you see a potential future with. Best of luck to you both! ❤️

Thank you, She told me she had it and she want to protect me. She doesn't want me to get something i may regret. Because we already know each other it makes accepting this a little easier. i have not yet told her i do accept this. She wants me to take time to 100% decide be sure. 

 

Due to this pandemic, i am unable to see her. When time passes and once we can see each other again, i will tell her i trust her enough and i do accept it and the situation she is going through. Anything and everything we can do to reduce the spread will help. If i do end up getting it, it will be something to accept with a relationship with her.

 

Thanks again for the reply

[I disclosed. He accepted. But I dont feel worthy.]

Hello

I am currently dating someone Who i have been with 5 years. She has told me she do have H2. We both have feelings for each other, she has told me the decision for us to move onto a relationship is mine.  I dont want to get it and She is terrified that i will get it, i care so much about her. i dont want to lose our relationship over this, any advice on what to do or say?

 

Thank you for reply