[Just found out i have genital herpes (HSV-1) from my ex]

hey WCSDancer2010 i could get a blood test, and i imagine im around 70%? likely to have hsv-1 in my system anyway?. I believe a huge proportion of the population has it. But most show no symptoms.

 

That means 70% of people i have kissed probably had the virus?

 

As for my doctor, he was dismissive UNTIL i mentioned partner having coldsores.

 

I went to the GUM clinic since i felt that a doctor whose job all day every day is to look at genital issues and stds would be an expert?

 

He was just so sure that it was dry skin, he said 'theres no sores or blisters anything!' just dry skin. I said my gp had thought it might be hsv..i made a point of suggesting it to him.

 

And he seemed utterly certain.

[Just found out i have genital herpes (HSV-1) from my ex]

Just an update, im confused now!

 

well it looks like my doc was wrong

 

i went to the gum clinic (in the uk its a clinic that specialises in genito urinary issues

 

and he said its just dry skin, i asked about herpes and he just said it isnt herpes! its dry skin you need aqueous cream

 

i asked about a swab and he said theres nothing to swab its dry skin...

[Just found out i have genital herpes (HSV-1) from my ex]

Yes thats what would have happened, she gave me genital hsv apparently from her oral hsv

 

Im a bit dubious about the diagnosis though to be honest

 

had a student with him... so i heard all of it

 

now when he first finished, he said to her theres not much wrong, and i said to him is everything ok...

 

he then said yes, its a little red, but not much

 

it was when he questioned me about history, partners etc he decided this, as soon as i mentioned partern had coldsores he latched onto it and prescribed acyclovir

 

i am thinking of going to the genital urinary medical clinic, it has no blisters (despite discomfort on and off for 3 weeks nearly now) and ive never seen a blister

 

i cant help wondering if its just irritation or something ...and maybee hes wrong

 

for instance i said how will i know

 

he said ..if it goes away with the anti virals thats proof!!!!

 

which seems stupid as it cud go away whatever it is

[Just found out i have genital herpes (HSV-1) from my ex]

Hi all

 

I recently split up with my partner of 5 years (8 days ago).

 

I didnt know she had coldsores until 6 months into the relationship when she had an outbreak..

at the time i wasnt too happy, since to my knowledge i didnt have the virus

 

She has had it since a child orally, and said outbreaks used to be terrible but are rare now (based on this it seems certain its hsv 1)

 

I knew the risks and it was my decision to keep in the relationship and still have oral sex etc- we got tested for all standard std's early on.. so our only precautions were the pill and avoiding intimacy during an outbreak

 

Anyway the last few days ive had genital irritation so went to my gp today who told me it looks like HSV

 

Presumably its from asymptomatic shedding as we avoided intimacy

 

He has given me a lot of acyclovair to take (over 1g a day) and said it may make me feel ill as its a high dose, but that as its a first presentation it may kill it dead.. that goes against everything ive been taught though.

 

So i have three questions if i may?

 

My ex has been having gynae issues herself

 

1) Am i correct in saying that there is zero risk of me somehow being infected by her then re-infecting her genitally? Its the exact same virus but a different location so surely it cant affect her?

 

If we got back together there would be no risk to her? (this is up in the air)

 

2) I am unsure how i will handle this when dating again.. on a first date announcing i have genital hsv-1 doesnt appeal but ill have to be honest about it

 

I THINK that if someone has HSV-1 orally then they cant catch HSV-1 genitally later- am i correct?

 

It would at least be something reassuring to tell future partners.

 

3) Is it true that genital hsv-1 tends to be less frequently occuring than genital hsv-2 or is that an old wives tale?

 

Thanks