Bebe
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I havent. :-/ I'll have to find another doctor that will test me for hsv again. The one I have said no. Smh. The cold sores scabbed up fell off. (Ew) Is that even normal for cold sores? And I think I have another sore/Pimple on my left butt cheek. Lol uughh
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I remember seeing your name! This week is is herpeversary! 2 years. Might be why I'm hysterical. Might be pms. Who knows. Lord. Lol Anyway, you guys make me feel normal. Like someone gets it! Hugs to you all <3
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Hi guys, it's been awhile. Hope you're all well! I Know you guys always say that hsv-2 doesn't pass from your genitals to your mouth. But yesterday I started playing with my face and trying to pop what I thought were pimples. They didn't even look like pimples really. Just a bump under my skin that kinda hurt by my lip. I popped them and a water like substance came out, then blood. One started peeling and now I have a big scab where it was. The other is a lot smaller and looks similar. Both kinda hurt, but not much. Went to my horrible pcp bc he was the only person available and he refused to give me a swab test, told me it's not even a swab test, it's scraping, and I already have hsv-2 and take meds so there's nothing more to do. Rude. Said it kinda looks herpetic, nurse said it could be but she doesn't know unless they do testing. And he def didn't add herpes testing to my blood work. Smh
Now I don't know what is going on on my face. I've never had this happen before and idk what the protocol with sex is when you have oral hsv-2. Or is it even hsv-1/2?? I'm stressing myself out and can feel an outbreak coming. But I'm on 1000mg everyday so I don't get it! :( help if you can? Thank you <3
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Yes! I've only had this like once or twice and it's really small. It looks like when I tweezed my upper lip and cut myself, but I don't recall plucking in that area.
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I tested negative for hsv-1 last year. I'm getting retested soon though. @2legit2quit
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I've been on and off valtrex for like a month now and my outbreaks have gone down but today I just noticed a little papercut scratch on my lip. Lately I've been feeling little itches and stuff on my lips but I don't ever get cold sores. I have hsv-2. Should I just take some valtrex? Idk if that's what cold sores are like. :-/
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It definitely wasn't prolonged at all! Or real rubbing/friction. I might just have to tell him. Or maybe he'll become a full fledged jerk before then saving me the trouble! Smh. And I will remember that for next time! Thank you!!
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Thank you guys. I will definitely try to start yoga again and exercise. Or a creative outlet. I started valtrex, but my doctor only said one a day. It's only been a few days and I still keep getting new tiny sores, so I'll see. I do need to work on myself, I've just been avoiding it. :-/
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I agree!! You totally should be out there talking to the masses. It could prob change things for a lot of people. Get people talking and open their minds. Find the time please!!! Lol
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I was recently on here freaking out...I'm baaaaaaackkk. Lol jk. I've had hsv-2 in my nether regions for almost a year and a half. Idk if it's the stress of being single again and dating or new position at work, but I've had outbreaks back to back for almost a month and a half now. But I've had small outbreaks before, so what's going on? I thought after a year, your body was kinda used to fighting it off. Should I get on valtrex? It's never been this bad—tiny clusters, a lot of itching, and the closer I get to this guy the worse it gets. :( help, if you're not tired of hearing me rant. Lol ;-*
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And I should mention I have a tiny sore right now. And I guess after (hand) touching it got worse. I he wasn't near it much, I think but I'm still slightly worried. I've also noticed that I have had an outbreak in different places all month long. Longer probably. This has never happened. I've had hsv-2 for over a year now. About a year and 4 months.
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**Sigh** you guys are a god-send. I definitely understand what you mean about the in to me versus into me part. I think that's why I'm so scared. Because this is a mostly physical relationship, and we wanted to keep it light. This is the opposite of light. Lol But if it makes any difference a good guy friend who I unfortunately don't really like came out and told me he really liked me! And he knows about the hsv!!! So it's not a real disclosure success story, but it did help how I feel about myself. A bit!
Thank you guys. I'm going to keep hanging with the other guy and try and tell him soon. I did what you said @wscsdancer2010 and told him about taking it slow! He knows I want to have sex, but I won't. And he's confused, but I think it's a good thing because he's never experienced this before. Lol Things keep getting closer and closer to sex though, and I'm scared I could give it to him from just slight rubbing? Can you? It's not intense grinding or anything, but we did touch quite a few times. Smh. Thanks again. <3333
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Thank you so much!! So good info!! I guess I'm just scared of the rejection I will inevitably face. Idk if I can handle it.
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Wow. @amethyst21 what a horrible doctor. Hopefully you've found someone better. I feel a lot better now, but I'm still avoiding the talk with the guy I'm talking to. But it'll have to happen eventually if we want to have sex. I'm so scared he's going to reject me.n
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Smh. Yeah, he was pretty shitty. But Someone referred me to a new doctor who might know more and is at least nicer/cares about you. I'm just glad I have information from a great site like this with you guys on it. I'd go crazy if I didn't have yall.
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Yeah, I did read your post, and I'm currently up reading more of your posts! It's just so confusing to hear a doc say that and everyone on here say differently. This is why i hate going to gyn's. They're always saying something that's off according to everyone who has it. Smh. This was my first time with him, the last one kept saying my paper cut ob's were razor bumps and ingrown hairs, basically dismissing me. He was really making it seem like I could just pass this through any sort of touching/saliva.
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It seems to have gone away, so you were right. I still feel like shit because I went to the GYN for info and my first batch of valtrex. He told me I can basically give it anyone any way. And to constantly wash my hands because it's a virus. Anywhere there is broken skin I can give it to them. So I guess even kissing is a risk now?? No more passionate kisses? Like wtf. I don't even want to talk to this guy I'm seeing now anymore. Sigh. I feel doomed even more than before.
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So now I have this weird thing in my mouth on the inside of my lip. It feels kinda sore and raw. It's not on the skin though. Is it a coincidence that this happens a day after I give someone oral??? Idk what is going on. I can't deal anymore.
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SIGH. thank you. I really was losing it last night. It's really starting to settle in that sex will be a little more difficult now. And I want to take it slow but I guess I'm having a hard time with that. Smh. And I did tell him that I was dealing with some stuff unrelated to him and I'm differ t from most girls, and if he cares maybe one day I'll tell him. Maybe he'll be understanding. I'll get to that when we get there. I just wanted to have some fun. Smh.
Thank you again for everything. <333
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I'm starting to kinda date again, and I gave someone oral. I never told him I had hsv-2 down there because I'm just avoiding sex. I feel so scared and guilty. What if I give it to him? I'm always paranoid about getting it on my mouth, but it's been over a year that I've been diagnosed and I haven't yet. I'm not on any suppressive medication and I have an outbreak that's healing right now. Will he get it? I feel so stupid, I just want to cry. Do I tell him now? What are the risks from oral both ways? I like him, but idk if he's open to this risk or likes me enough. I'm freaking out. Thanks for any help.
-Bebé
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That's a really sweet message from a guy. I'm surprised honestly. Thank you @wcsdancer2010. I've been trying to occupy my time talking to guys who idk online and it just makes me feel worse honestly. I do need to take time to heal. Thank you. I'm even on a positive singles site. I feel like a leper. Smh.
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Ah! You guys give me hope! I just got back on here after months, and suprisingky enough something told me to try and chat to folks just needs support. And literally one week later I find out my bf, ex now, who gave me hsv-2 is cheating on me agaaain right a couple months before we were supposed to get married and move in together. A big part of why I'm so sad I think is the shame of being treated like shit for the past few years, and that I got this skin crap to go along with it forever. I want to date and have fun but how??! I don't want people telling me I'm gross because of it or being mean. Smh.
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You WILL be okay!!!!! This is not the end, and you will learn to deal with this. I'm sorry the symptoms suck!! They really are super annoying and inconvenient as hell! They're especially scary at first, you don't know what's going on, then they just remind you of it, again. But soon you'll see that it's like getting a cold, annoying but it'll go anyway in a few days. Or a pesky pimple! You'll get the hang of symptoms, the outbreaks will be bad, but maybe not as bad, or even reaaally not that bad if you're taking care of yourself. Just know you'll kick its ass. :)
Oh! And you will have everything you want, just like dancer said. Love, family, success, peace!!! As long as you want it and don't let this thing define you. You're not a skin condition. Fuck that. (Sorry for the language lol) I've had this for a little over a year and I have grown tremendously bc of it.
Your partner seems very understanding which is great!! Let him support you, and keep getting the support you need in this forum. It helped me so much. Wishing you the best!!!
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Congrats!!! Lol I haven't disclosed to anyone but two friends and their reactions were pretty good compared to other folks. I'm still with the person who gave it to me, but I kinda want to test it out on a crush. See how they respond, just for practice too ;) hahaha
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Would you talk to a psychologist about herpes?
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I was on my way to my old therapist when I found out. I def told ther! You just have to feel comfortable with that person and have a relationship where you know you can talk about anything! It takes time to find a therapist sometimes, it's truly like dating, but you'll find someone! Good luck!