Lisa
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Hi, this post really strikes a nerve in me as I have been trying to overcome the "why would any guy want to be with me if I have an STD" I am still looking for that special guy-but he remains elusive... I totally understand why we think this way. How long does it take to find one decent guy? I am losing hope and sometimes go into my dark place. Overcoming obstacles is the key but I sometimes wonder is it all worth it?
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Hello Trying to Heal.... I feel for you. I have gone through just what you describe here. I have been to those dark places as well. Not just once - but many times. It's not a good place to be. Reflect on who you are - and not on just the herpes. Things will get better and easier as each day goes by. Your not alone -so keeping talking on here. It's a good venue to vent.... You will be fine. I attended the the Herpes Opportunity weekend with Adrial and it was fantastic! I encourage you to attend... go ahead and sign up. You won't be disappointed :-) Sending good energy your way!
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Good luck Virgo girl! Be strong! You will be fine... sending lots of good energy your way. Let us know how it goes..... :-)
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Hey Parkyo8.... WOW! Great story and thank you for sharing. I've had quite a few bad experiences with disclosing.... I hope one day I can write on this forum that I've found a great guy who doesn't care and wants me for me! :-)
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Happy Thanksgiving my fellow peeps! I hope you all enjoy the day :-) Well said my friend Adrial! You are an inspiration to all of us. I'm so Thankful I met you and we are friends. Gotta dash and will write more later....
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New Chapter - so sorry you have to go through this... dump her things on the curb and say f- off... Just kidding lol You will handle it just fine. Put this behind you soon -and your life will begin again... sending hugs your way :-)
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I was also a participant at the seminar and it was incredible! Toomuchorange is right - the shame of our gift just kept on giving to me and punching me in the stomach every day. I've been rejected so many times by non-H men -the gift was taking over my mind with aweful thoughts of unworthiness and feeling like I dont deserve to be loved. After this seminar - it was like a feeling of relief.... I was able to release all of the bad energy. I was able to release those aweful thoughts and take my power back ( I lost it along the way for so many years) Adrial's friendship is worth gold to me :-) He was inspiring and I'm so glad I attended. One of the best weekends I've had in a long time. I'm honored to be one of the first participants to go through this.... it is something much larger... are you all ready? lol To the others participants who attended with me: we will always have that special bond between us...what an awesome feeling!
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Carlos, well said! Ive been reading your posts but havent commented that much. You are an inspiration... Gotta meet you sometime. You know exactly what to say and how to say it. Your a gem and worth more than gold! You've given a lot to everyone in here and I know there is so much more to come.... :-)
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Ciao Alex, Thnx for sharing your story. It is a story similar to my own experience even though I am prolly much older than you. Finding one true partner is a tough journey - Im still hitting obstacles every day. I feel your pain believe me. Focus on what is right for you and eventually things fall into the right place. What comes around goes around - it does come to fruition - make take some time (it took over 2 years for me) -but things have their way of getting sorted out. Enjoy the next chapter... it will open your eyes about men in general and what is really important. Good luck to you :-)
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Hello Marie.... WOW! You did awesome! Im very happy for you! You are one of the lucky ones that found a man who actually cares about you.... Every man i have had the talk with has rejected me on the spot. You go girl! He is a keeper! :-) Keep us posted!
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I understand about dating in and out of the H community... but i have had nothing but bad luck with non h'rs.... recently turned down again due to the H. I think it's easier to date with those who already have it... but finding that compatiable person is also a challenge! I could say so much more about this -but will hold for now....
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Gosh – I totally agree – but… it’s hard to get where you are! Your right, though – you snap out of it and have to dig deeper within yourself…. it makes you a stronger person for sure. I wonder how can you stay in that happy place and move forward by not taking a few steps back?
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Hi again… tnx for the kind words! I am a magnet for ‘bad romances’ (Lady Gaga here I come…lol) Always jump in too quick and too deep…. now my common bond makes dating even harder than before… I’ve been burned by men who don’t have this who choose to walk away. Just very painful to keep trying with this non H group… I won’t go there again. I have been alone for awhile now – even before I got the gift. So, I don’t think it’s the gift that I’m struggling with here… or maybe it is… lol As you pointed out – I do feel somewhat ashamed still – like it was my fault this happened. Heck – I haven’t even told one person close to me that this has happened to me… just can’t bring myself to confess… lol the support group has really helped me over the past year – without it I would have been toast… The more I chat with others like me – the more I come to terms with it and move on. I knew I was a strong person – but this has made me really stronger. Must be that Italian bloodline… ha ha ha I know what I have to work on… a little bit at at a time! Anyone else care to chime in? :-)
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Hi there… I am a newbie to all of this – about a year now that I found out. I struggled with feelings of self doubt and would ‘I ever be the same’ kind of thing. But – it is what it is and life goes on. Sure I would love to be in a relationship right now – rather than being alone. But- I look at it this way- what i’ve had to go through has and will make me a stronger person in the long run. I will find that special someone – it’s just gonna have to wait awhile… lol and I will not jump into a relationship for all the wrong reasons anymore… it makes you think about yourself and what you’re worth and what you deserve in life… just a thought I had… hope this helps whoever reads this…!!! nite…
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I have herpes. So why would a man choose me?
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Hi, great discussions on this topic! I hear what everyone is saying but I'm still stuck in my dark space... it's tough to still be alone and wanting more. I wonder when will this end and when will I feel really happy again? I'm losing hope every day -:)