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I also would like an opinion on this, do you think it's okay at any point to decide to not use a condom during sex as long as there is no signs of an OB and I am taking anti virgals?

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Thank you everyone for that! And that article is especially helpful. I still plan to work up the courage to tell him and I think with that information, if I make it seem like not so big of a deal, then it has the potential to go well. That's all I can hope for. Will check back in with an update once I dosclose. Wish me luck!

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It would also be super helpful if someone could give me statistic facts about GHSV1 and transmission rates from women to men that I would use to make him feel more comfortable with it.

 

I want to make it seem like as little of a big deal as possible (if that makes sense)

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I was diagnosed with GHSV 1 in December of 2013. Since then I have had three partners. The first two I told before having sex. But the third has gotten somewhat complicated. I spent the last 4 months studying abroad and met a guy who I really like. Because of a series of events we did not have sex while abroad.

 

Since returning to America we have become more serious and he is someone that I really like. We have had sex a few times (with a condom) and I am scared now that we are pretty deep in and I missed my opportunity to tell him. I chose not to tell him in Europe because I didn't know if we would last when coming home and now that it is working out and he wants to peruse a relationship, I know I have to gain the courage to tell him my situation.

 

The first two guys I told took it well and did not leave me, but I feel like that's because told them in the very beginning. The reason I'm so scared to tell this current guy is because we have now been talking to four months and I have not disclosed. He is the first person I have really liked and wanted to date since being diagnosed. I'm now extremely scared that I have messed things up by waiting too long and that I'm going to lose him. It makes me sick to my stomach. I haven't had an outbreak since being diagnosed so this is something that I often convince myself isn't an issue.

 

Any advice on this and how to about disclosing this to him would be very appreciated!