[Should I forgive him?]

Sorry, maybe I hit something other than "post comment."

 

It sounds like he is a wonderful man. Supportive, doting, concerned, loving.

You love him too, you said. That's great.

 

Don't let the anger and frustration of the situation come between you--

many folks never find what it sounds like you "have"--a solid, happy relationship.

 

My husband and I both have HSV2--I was diagnosed first and had to deliver the news to him

and that he needed to see the doctor for testing/medication.

 

I was a virgin when we married, then a bit on the wild-side when we separated.

Later we reconciled and we are happier than we have ever been.

So of course, I felt like it was my fault.

I was scared of how he would react when I told him. He handled it well.

I was scared he might even leave me. He didn't.

 

He was not a virgin when we married and as we look back (not in blame, but in irony)

the puzzle pieces started coming together.

 

Although we can never be sure, we think he was thecarrier/had it first.

Our son was born with small blisters on his cheek, the doctor gave us zovirax cream and said something about cold sore virus. My husband had cold sores/fever blisters etc., occasionally when we were dating, so did most of his siblongs and mother. I never "got" them--I just didn't seem succeptable and assumed it was hereditary.

 

I thought I was coming down with the shingles the first time I had an outbreak--I was standing at the sink washing dishes and it felt like someone stuck a cattle-prod to me. For a split-second I thought I had been electrocuted. Then blisters appeared--not

on my vagina, but on my hip/side, where the side-seam of my underwear was.

My doctor suspected otherwise and ordered bloodwork--positive.

We both were.

 

What I couldn't wrap my head around was that when we reconciled the marriage,

I had myself tested for STD's. The results were negative.

My doctor said the virus can stay dormant and then suddenly appear and that if my husband had multiple sex partners, either one of is could have transmitted it to the other, and it could have gone all the way back to his first sexual partner, there was really nonway to know for sure.

My husband was so naive about herpes, he thought a person could get it from coming in contact with public toilets. I think your boyfriend is naive too--he probably truly related the "bump" to a cold sore.

 

There are two things that can happen now--this can bring you closer together, or tear you apart.

It sounds like he is willing to do everything in his power to comfort you--he sounds willing to accept things for what they are, and move

forward. Anger, frustration, confusion, denial, reasoning are all natural responses to any loss,

and you are experiencing those emotions. That is normal.

Eventually you will reach acceptance.

Like a death of someone we love, we learn to deal with it--to accept it, for our own well-being.

 

I hope this helps and you can find/reach acceptance. When you do, you might still

occasionally struggle with those other emotions cropping up from time to time, but you just

learn to accept things as they are, and look forward.

 

I hope this helps--virtual hugs to you and your boyfriend.

 

 

 

 

[Herpes and peeing problems]

I'm sorry you are not feeling well--sending virtual hugs!

In my opinion, yes, antivirals help A LOT, especially during an outbreak.

I am not a fan of medicine but I am thankful for antiviral

meds--certainly has improved my quality of living!

Get well soon!

[Antiviral meds or not?]

I'm not a fan of medicine, take as little as possible and look for natural cures when available. I do however take an antiviral daily, I fee much better on it. Off it, I feel fluish, fatigued and generally unwell. It supperesses/lessens the severity of outbreaks as well, at least for me. I am married and my husband and I both take antivirals. :)

[Should I forgive him?]

I typed you a "book" and only the first line appears on here! Did you get the whole page? I am brand new to the forus and this was my first post.

[Should I forgive him?]

Hello warm cuddles,

 

From an outsiders perspective, it sounds like you are a good woman who found herself a good man.