[Do high numbers indicate a recent herpes infection?]

Hi @ScaredandConfused98, I just found out recently and diagnosed with HSV2 with 3.21 IgG. I too am looking for answers but these numbers must relate to an old infection as the last sexual partner I had besides my wife was over 15 years ago, and my wife has tested negative. Hope we both can find the answers & peace we're looking for, best of luck to you.

[Marriage ending... and I don't know how]

Thank you greatly @HikingGirl ! I will take a look at the book you recommended. Its all so overwhelming, life was going good, family and marriage great...and then it just hits out of nowhere! Very devastating and depressing! I will continue checking out the info and support within this community, Thanks again!

[Marriage ending... and I don't know how]

So I noticed most the members are women, I feel a little out of place but it makes sense since most of us guys aren’t in touch with their feelings or too macho to talk about it. But I’m hoping the community can help. I recently tested positive HSV2 with the IgM test and the symptoms I had were obvious, very bad breakout! I never had any sort of blister or sore prior to this. I definitely thought it was my wife as I was under the assumption she had an affair not too long ago, she just tested negative with IgG. At first she thought maybe I had it before we got married and never knew about it but after reading online that the first break out is usually the worst, she now feels I am the one that had the affair. She gave me a proposal stating that if I told her who and when it was, that she would have a little bit of trust to work off of and we could try and salvage our marriage. If I didn’t tell her then marriage is over, seeing as I would rather keep seeing this other woman. The thing is, I haven’t been with anyone else in over 16 years. So I really don’t know How, when, or with who I contracted it from. I’m in desperate need of answers, which I know is very difficult to get with this type of virus, I’ve done so much research. So maybe me reaching out like this is just a way of me coping and facing reality of what is to come…the end of the only thing I ever wanted, a lifetime with my wife.

 

One more thing that is odd to me. I’ve also read that if you have a breakout and start scratching, immediately wash your hands to avoid spreading to other parts of your body. If this is even remotely true, is it possible to contract it from having a non sexual contact with a person? I say this because when I was diagnosed, my wife opened up and said that our daughter contracted HSV2 a year ago. I know its far fetched but I’m really at a loss and all that I read out there is so conflicting, don’t know what to believe. Should I believe that I’ve had it all these years and this is my first outbreak(mind you that my immune system sucks, big time! I'm guessing it would of popped up WAY sooner) or is it possible I got it from my wife who is testing negative and no symptoms(she has a great immune system by the way)or somehow contracted it from non sexual contact from a family member who contracted it recently?