[Difference between hsv 1 and 2]

Back in 2018 I was diagnosed with hsv2 through a swab test. Once i was back sexually active i got a blood test and it was still hsv2. Now i am having unprotected sex with my partner we both got tested. Mine came back hsv1 and so did his. So did i never have hsv2. My understanding was hsv1 referred to cold sores and hsv2 was genital area which is where my initial  outbreak occurred. I have never had cold sores around or in my mouth or throat. I am confused! Can someone clarify?

[I have herpes but my boyfriend doesn’t]

I was diagnosed with hsv2 genital herpes back in 2018. Since then I have been very cautious with new sexual partners. For the past two years i did not receive or give oral sex due to hsv. However, my new partner is someone I believe is long term. We participated in oral sex while high intoxicated but it happened a few more times even while sober. However now my partner was diagnosed with hsv1 but he has had no cold sores or irritation. Now he no longers wants to perform oral on me but he is okay with me going down on him. We have had unprotected pretty much since the beginning of our relationship. I thought he was fully accepting me but now he’s changed. How do i tell him that i desire oral agAin? He doesn’t seem to understand that having unprotected sex with me and then me going down on him and kissing him presents the same risks. I feel he won’t understand and i won’t even enjoy it if he decides to go down on me again because I’ll always know that he didn’t want to anymore. However it’s killing me because sex is how i express myself and i feel i should have that the sex i want and crave since we have already crossed that line. I have been two years with no outbreaks and still on my preventative medications. Maybe im being selfish but I think things would be fine😓 

[My Herpes Story]

13 hours ago, Amando said:

Hi lonelystargirl

I'm so sorry you are going through this!

I know it hurts now but it will get better with time, you can still live a normal life
& there will be plenty of guys that will except you & love you for being you.

This place is a great place to seek comfort, so come here when you need to>

Wish you the best, big hugs!

 

Hey, thank you so much. This website as been very helpful. I feel less alone and reading comments like yours gives me hope that everything will be fine. I really appreciate you. 

Stay blessed!

[Dental Dams.. Yay? or Nay?]

So, I am young and as embarrassing as it is I'm horny and I miss oral sex. I was wondering how women felt about dental dams. Should I give it a go or is it a waste of time? I know it won't feel the same but can you still have the same stimulation?

[Freaking out]

Only way you can transfer is through actually skin to skin contact in your genital area. If you have unprotected sex or oral sex then it can be transferred. You can totally still hug and kiss your kids. If you had HSV1 (oral herpes)  then you have to be cautious of kissing. I have HSV2 as well and I still get worried about kissing and touching but you're fine. If you touch your self just make sure you watch your hands good which is what I'm sure you would do anyways.

[My Herpes Story]

6 hours ago, organicmama said:

You beautiful soul. I am so sorry this happened to you. Take really good care of yourself. Eat healthy, work out, take some immune boosting supplements like echinacea, elderberry, monolaurin, etc. also take a probiotic, get lots of vitamin C in your body, and try to be as calm as possible so your immune system can do it's thing. This is only my OPINION - but it seems as though the better you take care of your body the less symptoms you will have. My doctor told me not to drink, eat lots of organic veggies, take oil of oregano, and my supplements, and just try to live a life that's more stress free. If you need to talk to someone, I'm here. Always.

Also, I know your immune system cannot fight this alone because the virus will hide where your immune system can't find it BUT when the virus tries to surface - that's when your immune system does matter. So much love to you.

Hello, I'm doing my best to take care of myself. I've been trying to lose weight. I take echinacea as a daily supplement now. I'm doing my best to remain stress free physically and most of all mentally.... Thank you for responding. 

[My Herpes Story]

7 hours ago, Notgoingthere said:

Talk to your OBGYN and get on a different medicine there are I think two others. That’s good that you told him! A little secret is that doctors don’t test for herpes unless they ask for it. If he got a general std test then he wouldn’t have gotten a herpes test! I suggest you don’t talk to him again, you did the adult thing by telling him. 

I’d also suggest that you keep the herpes to yourself for now since you’re still in highschool.. and I’d stay away from any boys for now. I know there are going to be dances but maybe go with some gfs instead 

Hey, yeah I told him to ask specifically for the herpes test... I'm on my second prescription now but this one still makes me feel sick. Also, I haven't told anyone.. Only people who know are my parents and the bastard who did this to me. I'm actually in college now so I'm trying to lay low and stay away from men for now. I have cut off all contact with the guy and I am trying to move forward with my life. I appreciate your kind words and wisdom.  

[My Herpes Story]

11 hours ago, Notgoingthere said:

Don’t be disgusted with yourself! Have you looked up the stats! 1in like 6 people have genital herpes! Are you on medication to prevent the outbreaks? It’ll be okay you can still go to college and party. The only thing you’ll be missing is the random sex with guys and trust me.. ITS NOT WORTH IT! Did you tell the guy you were positive for herpes? I mean he has it to obviously and all these people have herpes on here too, so you aren’t alone.

Yea. Thanks I'm trying to be more positive. Yes, I told him.. He "claims" he's never had an OB or had any symptoms around his mouth or genital area..  He also "said" he got tested but his test for herpes was negative.  Someone how he tested positive for chlamydia but I don't have that. He said he got a prescription for the chlamydia and after a month or so he was clear from it. So, basically he lied is trying to say he didn't give me anything but he's the only person I've ever had sex with or done anything with. I am on Valtrex now to help stop OBs but I can't take it everyday. The medicine makes me extremely nauseous and I feel so sick when I take it. 

[My Herpes Story]

My name is Lo. I was diagnosed with HSV2 (Genital Herpes) a couple of month ago. I lost my virginity to a boy from school.. a boy I barely knew. We had sex three times. Everything was fine  until the week after the last time. I got my period but something else was going on. I began to have inflammation and bumps appearing around my private area. I couldn't urinate without being in excruciating pain. My body was weak and I was in so much discomfort. I tried to hid it from my parents and let is pass but I couldn't take the pain anymore. I finally asked my mother to take me to a hospital. I had already researched my symptoms and everything I read indicated I had herpes.. However, I was in denial and had to hear from the doctor myself. Unfortunately, my worst nightmare came to life. As soon as the doctor looked at my bottom area she told me I was experiencing an OB. They gave me a booklet, prescription, and basically told me good luck and left the room. I remember laying on the table feeling my world crashing down on. I was about to graduate from high school in a few days. I'm only 18. What seemed to be a new and exciting beginning turned into a depressing and bitter end. I still don't know how to cope with this. Some days I just burst into tears and live in fear of having another OB. I constantly feel disgusted with myself. I feel like no one will want me with my condition.  I know I will find someone one day but right now I feel so alone.