[I feel disgusting. Cheated on. Contracted herpes...]

21 hours ago, Bambina3 said:

..if you just wait until you’re closely bonded with someone before you disclose (prior to sex they advise).....I don’t see an issue...by then they are emotionally attached to you.

@Bambina3 

My gf waited 6 months to tell me she had GHSV1 only because she got an OB. By that time i was deeply in love and it was a complete shock. I can't help but think she planned it that way and am still very resentful about it.

That may not be what you meant, but it struck a chord with me. Being on the other side of that secret after becoming emotionally attached feels like a betrayal. Just thought I'd share.

[Genital Hsv 1 Transmission]

I got ghsv1 from my gf after about a year without condoms and she was on daily valtrex.