Kaydence

Hi everyone I'm Kay. Kinda long story but this will be as short as possible. 5months ago my husband and I separated. Month after that I fell for the "Your perfect, you deserve better from a friend of mine" and we slept together about 6 times all times vaginal protected, unprotected oral from him, and I never gave him oral. One time he did rub his bare penis on my vagina and butt for about a minute or so. We also kissed, ALOT. 2months after our sexual encounters I started feeling weird cold sensations on my butt and thighs, crawling bugs, pins and needles in my legs, feet and pelvis area. Then I started feeling the same in my face. Every week its something new, achy ears, blurred vision, achy eye balls, constipation, my periods changed I'm have 2 periods a month now, sore muscles every other day, shooting thigh pains, back aches, hell my hips hurt now as I'm typing. Just a bunch of neurological malfunctions. I've never had any blisters oral or vaginal or any clear signs of herpes but I just kno that's what it is. I've done alot of research and it all ties back to herpes. I was also having sleep distances (RLS), my doc gave me Gabapentin which stopped the RLS immediately, but I still have all the other pains, still tingling fingers, sore and achy knees, elbows, and ankles. My knees and stiff neck are the worst. Not to mention I can keep energy, I'm always tired. Im a diabetic so I'm not new to neuropathy, but this neuropathy is a different feeling. Its whole body neurological malfunctions. My eyes are sensitive to light, and my skin is sensitive to touch and cold air. Is this really primary herpes? I was ok and not freaking out for a while, but then my husband and I decided to work things out. Had sex unprotected vaginal and oral.... 2 months later he gets this swollen area on his lip. He says he took out the garbage and accidentally touched his mouth and 2 hours later the bump appeared. He said it itched before it showed up, no pain or weird feeling. It lasted about a week and just went away. I was just gonna see how it plays out for me because my doctor says she thinks its fibromyalgia and because I haven't had lesions or scars. She is not worried about herpes 5 days ago my husband came home complaining of soar thighs as if he worked out and a achy back. NO IM WORRIED AND POSITIVE THIS IS HERPES... I'm just scared shitless to go test for it... how do I break the news to my partner of almost 10yrs.