Missmissy
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On 8/6/2020 at 2:46 PM, Veryverystressed said:
Hi all,
I have spent hours scrolling though all of the stories and posts on this forum and the amount of empathy and sadness and glimmers of hope this site has offered me has been a blessing amidst all of the links I’ve clicked in search of answers. Basically my story is that I have been sleeping with this guy from my hometown, while I was away he slept with someone who has genital herpes. I do not know the details, though close friends of her sister say she’s had it for a while. I slept with him multiple times after the fact (before I knew), once or twice without a condom. When I heard he had been potentially exposed I immediately texted him and he confirmed he had slept with the girl, though he wouldn’t tell me if they used protection, he repeatedly told me he’s never had any symptoms and preceded to continue to try to hook up with me/ didn’t ghost me so I believe he at least believes he doesn’t have herpes. Thought after doing a dive into the internet I have realized 1. Herpes is much more common than I ever understood and 2. He could definitely have it and not know and have passed it to me. I got igg blood tested 3 weeks post my last exposure to him, and it came back negative though I know this isn’t a super reliable result given I’m supposed to wait for 12 weeks. I have been in absolute depressed panic mode, I check my vagina religiously and I have seen 3 different doctors over the course of the last 7 weeks since possible exposure who have examined me and told me I am okay and need to relax. (Not exactly easy). I have not had an outbreak, and I got some butt acne swabbed due to sheer panic and it came back negative. For the past week I have been feeling tingling in and all around my vagina that I only notice when sitting or going to bed, my gyno who I saw yesterday and my therapist told me this is a manifestation of stress. I’ve lost 10+ pounds and am overly analyzing every sensation. I guess I am here looking for input and answers. If you read and respond to this thank you and know I appreciate you greatly.
Heyyy I know this might not be much help but I’m going through the exact same thing as you. I think I also may have been exposed from sleeping with a guy who has slept with a girl who’s been diagnosed. The guy swears he doesn’t have it and that puts me at ease but at the same time I’m waiting to get a blood test to confirm. It’s been 4 weeks and I’m gunna get tested in another 4.
its really stressful not knowing but try to breathe ! If this helps, I was told if you haven’t had an outbreak by three weeks then you probably didn’t get anything. That’s what’s been getting me through the days. But ya, It’s still good to get tested cuz people are asymptomatic too.
I think I’m fine and I think you’re fine too but we’re both a bit of hypochondriacs. I shaved yesterday and swore I had bumps but when I looked an hour later they were gone so Obv the skin was just a little irritated from shaving. Try not to over analyze or you’ll drive urself crazy!
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I would trust the doctor if all you’re getting is cancer sores and a rash. But if you really think it’s herpes, I’d push and get tested. It’s hard to get a hsv test, it took me a year to get diagnosed cuz no doctors believe me when I said my lips were on fire. I never had sores so doctors didn’t test. Then finally one gave the blood test and I was positive
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I don’t think hsv would give you a decreased appetite unless you’re feeling depressed after your diagnosis. Do you have genital hsv1 or oral? I had tingling feeling around my lips for almost a year cuz the hsv is just making itself at home in your nerves and also, it kind of means nothing. I felt constantly contagious from the tingling feeling but never passed it along
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Hooked up with a guy yesterday, he told me he’s “clean” but I also found out his ex gf has genital herpes after the fact.
im worried I exposed myself and am wondering what my next step should be. I want to get tested but not sure when’s the best time? Two weeks? Should I just wait and see if I get an outbreak?
I have ohsv1 and I’m unsure whether his ex has hsv1 or 2. I know I really shouldn’t be worried if he has ghsv1 but since I don’t know, I’m sick to my stomach!
would love to get some ppls experience with hsv2? How long after sex did the outbreak come? When should I get tested?
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I was diagnosed with hsv1 from a blood test a few months ago and me and my doctors assumed it was oral. However I’ve had chronic bv for almost 7 years 😕 I’m wondering if my dr can do a culture and herpes swab in the same test cuz I wanna know if I actually have ghsv1.
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I have oral hsv1, like many other people, & I still disclose because it feels like the right thing to do. Idk where I got it from and if I could have made the choice I wouldn’t have gotten it.
I read all these stories of ppl having successful dating lives but I’m 23 and guys my age are not accepting of my ohsv1. They ask questions and seem fine/curious but then ghost me because they think I can’t give them head (🙄) but 30+ year olds are fine and willing to get tested for me.
Sometimes I think I should not be disclosing & it’s overkill but since knowing my status, I want my partners to get a blood test even BEFORE making out with me. Disclosing is hard and gives me anxiety but It really weeds the a-holes out of my life too. Sure casual sex can be fun but slow down. You can infect people! I don’t kiss until I get someone’s hsv status or consent because I don’t want to be the person to give them herpes. Be responsible.
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If I were you, I would be up front because you need the closure. Ask him if he’s ever had been tested for herpes because after you guys hooked up something happened and you think he gave it to you. Explain that herpes isn’t on standard std tests so it’s likely he’s never been tested. Also many people who have it and are asymptomatic & doctors don’t test unless people show symptoms.
im 23 girl and I know it’s really scary but you can’t keep yourself wondering! Your guy might deny it or say he’s never been tested but at least you got some kind of an answer from him. It took me a year to talk to the guy i think gave me my herpes & even tho he denied having it himself, it was a relief for me to tell him what I've been going through & how I felt abt him / the situation.
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You said you haven’t kissed or did oral but you’re having sex?
do you have ohsv1? 80% of people have it so It’s no big deal and dating should be completely fine. Sadly tho a bunch of people don’t even realize they’re carriers of the virus so they might be deterred from dating someone who knows their status.
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I’m not sure if it’s the same but I have hsv1 & had constant burning /tingling on my lips for 11 months. I started taking a vitamin and my symptoms went away in a couple weeks. I don’t even take the vitamin every day any more bc I forget since I don’t have the feeling anymore.
the vitamin I take is nature mades b-complex with vitamin c and zinc. It says it’s a stress reliever but it has so many vitamins in it that help with healthy nerve functioning. Hopefully it works for you too!
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On 3/25/2020 at 4:27 PM, Alexus said:
Why are u thinking of ur friend like this? Does she know you think she’s a contagious walking thing?
I don’t think she’s a contagious walking thing. At the time, I didn’t know my status and wasn’t sure if I could get it from her which is reasonable concern. Wouldn’t you agree most ppl who don’t have herpes try to avoid getting it...?
and I wasn’t scared about testing positive because of her. I was scared of testing positive because of what happened last year. It brought back old concerns but alright, go off
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1 hour ago, mr_hopp said:
Hi @Missmissy! You're pointing to one of the double-edged swords of being aware that you're a carrier. If you've never had an outbreak, then you don't know where on your body your original infection was (which gives you a sense of where your asymptomatic viral shedding is happening). I'm assuming that you tested positive for HSV-1? If so, then yes, it could either be oral or genital. Best way to handle this with integrity is to disclose in a matter-of-fact way and educate. (If there's any shame in your delivery, be sure to do that self-work necessary to get that out of the mix.) Sharing that most of the world are carriers of HSV-1 is helpful information to share: one, it helps to educate others about the ubiquity of herpes, and two, it helps to break down the stigma that this isn't just some disease that promiscuous people get. (An equal-opportunity virus!)
Yeah, i have hsv1. I don’t know if it is oral or genital but I assume it’s oral herpes cuz I’ve kissed like 3x more people than I’ve had sex with. Also, my dad had coldsores when I was younger so I could’ve gotten it from him when I was little but I’ll never know.
My main worry is kissing my 2 year old brother or giving oral to my bf. My dr didn’t seem worried about these things but I am. I wanna avoid passing this onto others but my dr thought antivirals were unnecessary.
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I’ve never had a cold sore or a genital outbreak, I just took the test out of curiosity. I had a feeling I would test positive because 80% of people have this but I’m still really upset and don’t know what to do with this info.
what does this mean for kissing and oral sex? I don’t wanna pass it to anyone but im asymptomatic.
my igg results were positive for hsv1 with a value of 22.2? What does the value mean? Is it possible to know if this is a new or old infection
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20 minutes ago, mr_hopp said:
Hi @Missmissy,
Based on the facts you gave, it wouldn't be possible for multiple reasons:
- If they have genital herpes, it can't be passed orally.
- Sharing drinks isn't how herpes is transmitted; it spreads via skin-to-skin contact only.
- An outbreak wouldn't show up within a 24-hour period.
Here's an article to get the overview on how herpes spreads: https://www.herpesopportunity.com/post/how-can-you-get-herpes
I was talking to my friend and learned after the fact that her boyfriend has had an outbreak on his lips before so I’m not sure if it’s both or just oral.
However, I just read through the article and believe my risk is low because he doesn’t have any cold sores and I didn’t Directly touch his lips.
the two have been together 4 months, kissing, and she’s never had it spread to her lips so i don’t think she would have given it to me with a quick kiss either.
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Friday night I was drinking with my friend and her bf. They both have genital herpes. Apparently her bf has gotten an outbreak on his mouth but she never has. I’m not sure if they passed it to me but my friend kissed me (I pulled away) but we shared Pepsi and beers because I was only nervous abt skin-skin contact even tho none of them have an active outbreak on either genital or face. Anyway, Later that night I gave my boyfriend a blowjob and the next day, which was yesterday, he told me he had a bump near his groin.
I feel like I was closer to exposure than he ever was so is it just a coincidence he got a bump right after I blew him the night I was with my friends? I told him not to worry cuz I don’t have any cold sores but I was involved in kinda risky behavior by sharing with them.
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1 hour ago, Needhelp19 said:
Hi,
I've been good. So far I haven't experienced a cold sore since I took the Western Blot. I have occasionally experienced a tingling sensation but no pain. I am still uncertain about my results so I plan on taking the Western Blot again just to be sure. The test and the symptoms consumed my thoughts for such a long time that it wore me out. I haven't even kissed anyone since last year but I'm slowly feeling more at ease about the results possibly being positive.
Some of the tingling can be a result of other things but if you really want to be sure (it is a rabbit hole that some people don't want to go down and you have a beg a doctor to give you the test if you have not experienced a cold sore) take the IGG test to see what the results are. If you receive a low positive and still don't receive a cold sore, either take the test again after 6 weeks or take the Western Blot. Some people will think you are being extra paranoid, but it is your health and you have every right to do what gives you peace of mind.
Thank you for replying so quickly!! I really appreciate it! I completely agree with everything you say, last year when the tingling first showed up I called planned parenthood because I wanted to be tested and they said they wouldn’t do bloodwork unless I have an active outbreak so I cancelled that appointment. Then in the summer I had my physical in June 2019 and I had an std blood test done, I was told everything was negative but I’m not sure if that tests for herpes or just hepatitis, hiv, etc.
anyway, after that I had some peace of mind bc bloodwork, right? But I still don’t know my status 100% and now, since my friend was actually diagnosed 3 months ago & I still see her all the time it makes me nervous I might’ve been exposed again! Ughh you’re right it’s rabbit hole and it seems like doctors would rather us be ignorant if there’s no sores. Idk I want a test but I’m so scared of how I’ll react if it’s actually positive... and it might be.
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How have you been? I was reading your other posts and I strongly relate! I think I may have gotten hsv1, I kissed a guy last April and my lip has tingled every day ever since. It’s been like 10 months and I’m still waiting for a cold sore to pop up and get me out of denial but it hasn’t happened so Ive lived life normally since... I don’t want to make myself depressed by getting a positive result.
however my friend who I know has genital herpes as of November has been spending a lot of time with me this month and I think I should get checked for real. I don’t have sex with her, I’m just paranoid that everyone has given me herpes and I’m susceptible to something since I have tingling sensations on my lip.
my vagina is fine. It doesn’t hurt But I get chronic vaginitis, which is like a yeast infection.
So my question I guess is, does your lip still tingle and are u currently living as if your results are negative?
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1 hour ago, dudereally said:
If you’re worried about getting oral herpes from your friend who has genital (?) herpes then passing it orally from you genitally to your boyfriend from a kiss I’d say you’re fine. Honestly you’ve probably been exposed to oral herpes more times in your life than you’d think (cold sores, sharing drinks, first kisses with a SO, etc). Generally type 1 (oral) transmits rather easily orally (cold sore on lip gives you cold sore on lip) them type 2 (genital to genital transmission) is easily transportable. When you start mixing sites you’re less likely to contract something. Example type 2 infects mouth even tho it generally infec genital is the least transmitted (still possible but think giving head with no previous history of cold sores to someone with genital type 2 herpes coming down from an outbreak but maybe not symptomatic) and that’s a far reach. As for someone disliking your friendship based on this, is a little outrageous and mean. I’m sorry your boyfriend is like this. Lots of people have consensual kisses with friends and lots even have herpes, like myself. Best bet ask question in a respectful manner and be honest with your boyfriend. You’ll probably be fine.
Thanks for replying and putting me at ease! After we kissed I thought it would be fine too. I know she gives her bf oral(the guy who gave it to her) but I still don’t think her herpes is oral so I wasn’t concerned at all, we were even sharing a Pepsi at some point. Plus, when she had her first outbreak she was living with me and we were sharing joints and drinks and nothing ever happened to me so I’m pretty sure it’s contained to their genitals.
I’ve never been tested for herpes cuz I’ve never really had a reason to but every time I hang out with my friend my bf makes me feel like I need to see a doctor asap. It’s rude as hell cuz she’s been my bestie for 9 years and this just happened to her a few months ago. I wanna support her and treat her the same!! But I’m also not really educated so the kiss freaked me out a little bit bc my bf gets in my head abt things.
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Hi my best friend & her boyfriend have genital herpes. We were drinking two days ago and she kissed me. It was a really quick peck cuz I didn’t want to and pulled away...
At the time I didn’t really care but as days go on, and I’m sober, I’m nervous about getting herpes too. I’ve never seen her with a cold sore but I know shes infected. She told me she took her medication but How worried should I be? also i gave my bf a blowjob and I’m nervous for both of us. I would hate to have given it to him cuz he hates when I hang out with my bestie since her diagnosis.....
ive also never had a cold sore but this was only a few days ago she kissed me
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I asked a question before cuz I thought I might have been exposed to herpes a few months ago but I don’t think I was because I never got a cold sore or an outbreak, my lip just tingles constantly... & it still does months later.
however, recently a friend of mine was staying at my house for a month and last week she got bumps on her vagina so she moved back to her parents house. I didn’t think much of it cuz she was barely sexually active so I didn’t think she had herpes, maybe just an ulcer or cyst, but she was diagnosed with herpes over the weekend.
Anyway since she was staying at my house all that time should I be worried that I have herpes? We didn’t have sex or anything but we smoked blunts together, shared drinks, shared a shower (even though she says she didn’t use my soap), etc. her herpes is on her genitals, nothing on her lips but it’s still concerns me!
its also my bfs house and he is going to be furious if I tell him but if it’s not that contagious, should I just keep it to myself unless one of us has an outbreak??
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25 minutes ago, Fmals said:
You probably already have HSV1 orally...most people do. You can get a blood test to see if you have antibodies for it but if you just newly acquired it antibodies might not show up for 3 months. Either way, HSV1 is super common and most people get the virus as a child...are you just curious or are you worried about it?
I am worried. I’ve never suffered from cold sores before but it feels like I may get one. I know there’s a common herpes but I didn’t think I’d ever have symptoms or had it. I might though.
Thank you for your info on the antibodies though. Hopefully planned parenthood can do my bloodwork but if not I’ll have it done at my next physical. It just sucks I have to wait 3 weeks for an appointment. I don’t wanna kiss anyone with this tingling but I also wanna go on dates lol
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On April 20th I started feeling a tingling on the right corner of my mouth and sometimes it gets a little bit itchy. I’ve been having this tingling sensation for 11 days now expecting something but there’s no outbreak, sores, or rash? My lip is just tingling all the time.
I kissed two guys one one in March and one in the beginning of April. I also shared a drink with a girl on April 19th. I don’t know much about oral herpes but I’ve never felt this before and it’s stressing me out. I called planned parenthood to see if they could test me for herpes and the lady didn’t give me a confident answer. She said their std tests are for aids, gonorrhea & chlamydia. Herpes gets a patient consultation— except, I don’t have cold sores so they might just ignore my problem.
Im only worried about oral herpes. I haven’t had sex with anyone new in years.
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I felt the exact some way! I couldn’t eat for a week and it was all I thought abt but it’s been basically a month and I’m starting to think I don’t have anything. Of course It’s still in my mind All the time and I want to get tested but I basically take it day by day. I haven’t really had any pain or blisters at all but I feel the same tingles you’re talking about! I’m sure it’s all in my head though but the blood test will confirm in a few more weeks for me. I’m 23 & it’s kinda hard to avoid dating cuz I really wanna get back out there but this scare has me not wanting to do/ spread anything until I know I’m good to go. I read an article that said 70% of ppl who get hsv2 will have antibodies by the 6th week. I’m testing at 8 weeks instead of 12 cuz 12 weeks is just way too long to not know.