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OutOfWit

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  1. Hi there, sorry for what you are going through.

    From her perspective, I understand the pain & anger that she was not given the choice to make her own decisions about her health.

    From your perspective I also understand the pain & fear of rejection. I also struggle with the science & behavior of others. For instance I have literally never heard anyone disclose having cold sores when they were 3 or 4 to anyone before starting to date. essentially I feel this is the same thing. Same virus, same body just above the the belt and not below. I do think in order to change the stigma - the healthcare community absolutely needs to test everyone. I think 70% of people knowing they carry the virus would change everything about the way we think of this. 
     

    That being said once we know better, we have to do better. Don’t beat yourself up- just learn from it!

    keep your head up. 

     

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  2. I think the first thing you should do is tell someone you are close to. Someone you trust whether your parents, sibling or a close friend. It will help you not feel so along in this. Try counseling and work towards ending the relationship. 

    The title of your post says everything. You feel trapped. I believe he meant to trap you! Don’t let him. 

    ❤️

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  3. Just need to get on here and let my emotions run.

    I have been on this site for many years. I have Oral and Genital HSV1. I have zero idea how I contracted genital but it took many years for the diagnosis, after visit after visit to the ObGYN and a lot of research. I have never had a positive swab and I have atypical symptoms. My OBs appear like folliculitis - at the bikini line and few small red dots on my thighs and buttocks. For years I never knew what it was. 

    It was always my biggest fear I would transmit it to my daughter, especially because by the time I got the diagnosis it was years after I had her. 

    A few years ago she had her first symptom in the summer. She was 8 years old. I noticed a large pimple like sore which was healing at her bathing suit line. She followed that with “poking sensations” itching burning and discharge. I did take her to the doctor but they decided not to swab. 

     

    Now years later in May I noticed another pimple like sore in her bikini line that looks a lot like my small sores. I was not able to get her to the doctor in time for a swab. 

    She also has had small red dots one at a time on her upper thigh, outer thigh and inner thigh. None have any kind of fluid in them that I can tell. 

    I know this sounds over the top but the small red dots that she gets on her thigh look exactly like mine do .... but no one will listen. I don’t wish to traumatize her by bringing her to multiple doctors to swab private areas on her. But I feel like I’m just waiting for a bomb to go off... 

    the more areas pop up the more it compounds the evidence for me that she has it. How did she get it? Was I not careful and she sat in my lap when she was younger. Did I scratch a sore before I knew what it was and then touch her. I’m drowning in what ifs. And the terror of how she will handle this as a young girl. It’s not fair. She will never be able to navigate life as a normal tween. I am not okay! 

  4. I am aware. I’ve been on this site for years. I’ve had oral have since childhood. I’ve had symptoms of genital herpes for almost 12 years but never a positive swab. Doctors did agree that it appeared like herpes, and all symptoms burning , itching, nerve pain- I used to get almost like a herpetic folliculitis on my vaginal area and on upper thighs. Before I knew what it was I did all the things that moms do - allow child to sit in your lap as a baby and take baths together. 

     

    About 2-3 years ago I took her to the doctor after I noticed a sore on her bottom while in a bathing suit. We were at beach and she complained of something poking her while the sore was present. When I took her to the doctor though it was starting to heal so they did not swab. During that time she was also very itchy and had a lot of discharge that they chalked up to puberty changes. I still see a yellow discharge in her underwear from time to time.

    she is a gymnast/dancer and 11.5 now- she was in a bathing suit and stretching yesterday and I noticed the pimple looking sore. It’s right at her Bikini line. Although no hair in the center so it can’t be folliculitis. 

  5. I have recently posted a thread regarding concern that I have passed this virus to my daughter somehow..... And have been doing research on several forums as well as reaching out to Terri Warren about this issue. I am going to post several questions..... If this pertains to you please respond with your experiences as I am looking to see if I'm the only one in this situation.

     

    1. I know for a fact that I have had HSV1 since I was a child. I used to get horrendous cold sores on my lips after visiting a summer camp. My mother used to take me to the health food store desperately trying to find a remedy or something to help. I now have genital HSV1 as well. I have heard that this is next to impossible. Even Terri Warren told me that if I have had oral there is no way I have genital HsV1 as well. Is there anyone out there that has both?

     

    2. I have been repeatedly told that it is nearly impossible to pass on to my daughter through daily activities.... Yet there are threads on the Internet on several different forums with people stating that their child has contracted it without foul play. These threads are several years old. Does anyone know anything about these situations?

     

    3. I am pretty sure my daughter has oral hsv1. She has never had a lesion on the outside of her mouth but has had several occasions where she has white spots on her tongue - as I do. Also on the inside of her cheeks. I was told by a doctor that is a form of oral herpes. Is anyone familiar with this or are these canker sores?

     

    4. My genital herpes started out as atypical herpes presentation without sores or rash. And when I did get lesions they were single bumps or herpetic folliculitis. How many out there have had single bumps or lesions? What did they look like?

     

    I will openly admit my anxiety about this situation has increased maybe passed the point of normal concern. I have had several people graciously comment with their opinions multiple times and I am thankful for them.

     

    Thanks again.

  6. No it's ok.... We were in the water and she said she had to get out because she felt pain and burning down there.... Then an hour later started complaining of a poking feeling right at the same area between her thigh and butt cheek. It's right where I tend to get nerve pains as well. So it really worried me. And her language a poking feeling. Reminded me of nerve pain. She said it felt like something sharp

  7. @MMissouri - we are away on vacation, when she complains of the sensations it is only for like 5 minutes or so and then they go away which to me is more indicative of herpes. She complained twice the day before yesterday but nothing yesterday, so I'm not going to take her until we get home, and then even then there is nothing they can do unless there is another sore they can swab.

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