[Casual Sex]

Does anyone have any success stories on casually having sex with someone? That is something I'm interested in, but I'm scared to do it.

[Moving forward]

On 11/21/2019 at 9:04 AM, Clarity said:

This is a great question. After I found out I didn’t go back and fell any of my exes. As far as I know, they don’t have it. I feel like I should tell them all but I am really struggling as well. 

it's a very personal thing to sharee.. and I feel like such a messed up person for not letting them know.

[Is it too late?]

On 11/24/2019 at 8:47 PM, Clarity said:

I can relate. Haven’t told a single ex. I feel guilty sometimes too. Moving forward, I’ll always disclose. It I don’t think I’ll be going back in time. Now to just find peace in that...

if you find a way to make peace with it let me know pls :')

[Is it too late?]

On 11/24/2019 at 7:06 AM, LostandFound said:

I don’t feel like you should feel too bad, they tell us that in the UK so should everyone here feel guilty all the time too? I think its personal choice and contrary to what most people on this forum think, your taking the necessary precautions so whats the problem? 

Sometimes I dont understand because we’re constantly told its no big deal its just a skin condition but then you get condemned for not disclosing 😩 you can’t win.

If you had passed it to anyone im sure you’d know about it by now!

Right... I'm conflicted. I now know I want to disclose to future partners, however, this one I drunkenly messed around with is not someone I want to be serious with.. so I was hesitant on telling him. I was also hesitant because I don't feel like I can trust him, and he's pretty judgmental, literally I just wanted a friends with benefit situation. 

Now I'm stuck with the same guilt because I didn't tell him like I planned to.

[Is it too late?]

On 11/23/2019 at 11:38 PM, Lvsandy said:

don't be so hard on yourself, my Dr's have given me the same advice. I recently met a man and have not disclosed. the shitty part is he didn't take my initial no for an answer, it had been 2.5 years and few outbreaks the last 2 so I did it. then he went and had sex with his ex behind my back. when I had sex with him after her (not knowing at the time) I brought condoms he laughed at me. well now I have an ob. we spent the night together, no sex told him I used a toy and was itchy then I asked him if he had been with the ex (I saw a pic on facebook) he asked about the itch and I said it usually happened when my ex screwed around on me. so now I am debating because he said he's "with me now" he never asked me to be his girlfriend and now I feel trapped. 

chances are you and I are the only ones that have it and fingers crossed we learned lessons and didn't pass it 

Did you end up telling him?

Yes, we have to in order to move on. I hate the mistakes I've made.

[Moving forward]

My ex boyfriend gave me HSV2 four years ago. We dated on and off for those four years, and during our off times, I had a couple of flings and one night stands. The initial person who diagnosed me
(healthcare worker at my college) gave me some advice on how to handle herpes- don’t let anyone go down on you and just use protection until you feel like telling someone. That’s what I did for years (except I’m horrible and people have gone down on me without knowing).. only one person knew I had it because I told him. I guess I was so ashamed I just wanted to avoid my condition. Now that I’m getting older and talking to other professionals, I feel weird and like a liar for not telling people. I now believe they need to know, and they should have consent before engaging in intercourse with me. I’ve definitely made an agreement with myself that the next person I want to sleep with, I tell because I can’t stand this guilt. I’ve literally been severely depressed for this past year because I feel like the worst person in the world. I don’t know if I’ll ever get better, so I’m wondering if I go back and tell the people in my past what I have (even people from 3 years ago) I don’t know what to do— any thoughts, words of wisdom? I’m desperate. Side note-
I also take medicine every day and have been for years. I haven’t had an outbreak (or so I don’t think) other than the first one.