Hi. I see a lot of people talking about telling their partner before any sexual involvement happens. However, in my story, my injury appeared for the first time after protected sex.
Me and my partner had nothing different about our genitals. We used a condom, I had a small chafing bruise (I believe it's a vaginal fissure) and two days later I had symptoms.
It's easy to assume that one of us was asymptomatic, but you can't tell who. How can I tell my partner, since if he tests and is positive:
1- we won't know who gave herpes to whom,
2- It is not possible to know where he is infected (mouth or genital) because he has no lesions,
3- there is no treatment for those who do not have lesions.
How important is it for me to tell him what happened? Should I really expose myself considering he doesn't feel anything? If one day in the future he shows symptoms, he'll think I gave it to him, even if nothing guarantees he didn't give it to me now, Since I only had symptoms (first infection) after having sex with him.
I really don't know if I should tell him because there's nothing you can do about it when you don't have symptoms.
But at the same, precisely because there is the possibility that he gave me, or I gave him, I feel it is my duty to tell.
Do I need to count when I have symptoms after being with someone?
Can someone help me?