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  1. Things are sooo good! We're actually planning a quick getaway trip too, so all is well, I'm on cloud 9 right now, couldn't be better. And tonight he's introducing me to his kids so I have definitely found a keeper. Life is good!
  2. I am sooooo happy to hear this! Congratulations!!! There are good men out there who will understand and care about us regardless of our H status. I'm so happy for you!
  3. I'm sorry he reacted that way. He's definitely not the guy for you anyway. I'm not sure but maybe you disclosed too soon especially if you saw signals, like him being overly nice. Either way, keep your chin up and move on. There will be someone for you, trust me. I just had my first disclosure and he accepted me just as I am. You will find someone too!
  4. I'm still new to this but my OBGYN made it seem like it wasn't a big deal but I don't think they realize the emotional and mental part of this. I'd like to think that the older you get, the more mature people you'll meet who will care more about companionship than the sex part, not that it's not important but it's not at the top of the list. Keep smiling and putting out the positive vibes!
  5. I've been seeing this guy for about a month now and he's everything I've been looking for. Things have been going great and I knew it was time to say something. I have been practicing, reaching out to friends for support and advice...I was terrified. So tonight we had a date and I made it so that he picked me up and our date ended by him dropping me off. We were saying goodnight in the car and I knew it was now or never, I couldn't keep this in anymore. I went through my speech and said what I needed to, and then waited to hear him. He said that it's not a dealbreaker at all and tha
  6. From what it sounds like, he probably has it too. And in my opinion you did what you were supposed to do and disclosed to him. If he's being unfaithful to his gf, that's really not your problem to be honest. It's on him to get tested, take the proper precautions, and tell her, not you. Good luck with whatever happens but I don't feel that this falls on you.
  7. Hi There. I was diagnosed in January of this year and have been on Valtrex ever since. So far, no more OB's since the first one.
  8. Try not to look at it as baggage, it's just a small part of your life that if taking the proper steps can be very manageable and safe for you and a partner. Will you get rejected because of this, possibly, but unless you really put yourself out there, you'll never know. You need to do what's best for you. Don't settle, that never leads to anything good anyway, you're just prolonging the inevitable. Cut ties, do some soul searching and try to work on accepting yourself and then when you're ready, head back into the dating world. Is it scary...yes, but is it worth it...that only you can ans
  9. Hey there. I'm so sorry you're going through this but you deserve better, in fact you'd be better off alone then be with someone who's cheating on you and finding comfort in other women. That's just not cool and HSV or not, no one deserves that. It's been 5 months of this for me and I just got back into the dating world and am seeing a really great guy but the thought of having to disclose this makes me sick but I don't want to spend the rest of my life alone either so that's the risk we now have to take. I'm ready to take the risk of disclosing and rejection vs a lifetime on loneliness.
  10. I'm sorry this is happening. Maybe once the symptoms subside and she starts to feel better then she'll come back around.
  11. Thank so you much for all of that @Flowerteacher55. I personally would like to wait it out but I don't feel right if he were to ask me to become exclusive and didn't know this first so that's why I'm trying to prepare myself, just in case. And if not, which is okay, it'll give me more time to practice it for when the time does come.
  12. So I've been seeing this guy for a few weeks now, seen each other 3 times, and have the 4th date coming up. We have great conversations and I like him a lot but know that there's a possibility that I'm going to have to tell him about this sooner than later. I've spent the last 2 days combing through disclosure posts in this forum and there's so much information on it and different experiences. I would like to wait a little more but don't want him to feel that I led him on either. Adrial says to wait until you can trust them with your vulnerability but I don't exactly know what that m
  13. I'm sorry you felt that way. It's so hard at times, I get it. I was having a rough night last night too because I met someone and the anxiety of having to eventually tell him about this was just too much. Today is a bit better and I hope you start to feel a little better too. Hang in there.
  14. I wish I had the answer to this. I finally just got out there and have seen this guy 3 times already, we met for the first time on 5/10 and were talking for a few days before that. I'm not at a point where I'm ready to have the conversation but I have a feeling the time is coming soon. I've already started writing out what I want to say and how to say it so I can start practicing it now. I'm terrified of it though since this will be my first disclosure and it can go good or bad and the thought of rejection is gut wrenching. But this is the only way to try and not be alone for the rest of
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