hopefulherp

I like the sound of that! WC Dancer2010, I hope you know how helpful you are to those of us new to the site. Much appreciated!!

Thank you both for your comments. I was really stressed after I realized what a screw up I had made. I'm lucky I have the wife I do - she was not nearly as upset as I was. I have been concerned about her transmitting to me genitally and then a life of never ending OB's back and forth every time we had sex. From your comments, it sounds like I don't need to use a condom and that our sex should be gentle for awhile. Believe me, I will be very careful going forward about contact with an active OB and I know she will too. I'm hoping that if we can both do what we can to keep our OB's limited, then our great sex life won't be diminished to a significant degree. Is that a reasonable prognosis? Thanks again.

I have had oral herpes (Type 1) for many years with 2 to 3 outbreaks per year. I never gave them too much thought and for over 10 years managed not to transmit to my wife, probably more luck than anything. That changed about 2 1/2 weeks ago when I got careless (and stupid) and gave oral sex to my wife during a prodromal stage. The next day I had a significant breakout and was very worried about transmission to her. About a week later, she had slight burning during urination and about a day and a half of flu symptoms. After about a week, the burning is gone and no other symptoms. She has never had a cold sore in her life, but it appears that now she has Type 1 genital herpes. Her doctor prescribed Valtrex but said that tests are not accurate until 6 weeks have passed. I have a number of questions that I hope someone can help me with: - Is her doctor correct about the testing? - Can she transmit genital to me and can I transmit oral to her, or does the fact that we both have Type 1 make a difference. - Do I always have to use a condom now to prevent transmission? - Does contact initiate herpes outbreaks? Thanks for any info you can provide!