Violet

Did you get tested for other possible STDs? It sounds like the cramping your are experiencing could be gonorrhea or chlamydia. ( I didn't spell the former correct, forgive me) although it could be something else entirely. Are you having other symptoms such as yellow or green discharge? Don't be ashamed or think I'm trying to offend you. I've had gonorrhea myself, and had cramps and discharge. Go get checked out, if it is the culprit your doctor will give you some antibiotics.

I was painfully diagnosed ( oh my gosh was it ever painful, I hate to get into details...but I could hardly walk!) with herpes five years ago. I was going through an addiction and not respecting my body very well. I didn't tell a soul, and after the outbreak I went through denial, pretending I didn't have herpes. Fast forward four years later, I met an outstanding man that I can to understand more and more to be the one. I had the talk, and to my shock and awe, he accepted me. We are set to get married, and since he wants to marry me, he said that he didn't want to use condoms...that I was worth the risk. He's gotten tested, and he hasn't contracted the virus. Which brings me to my reason for this post: I haven't had an outbreak since my very first one, the one that let me know I had herpes. Is it possible that I never will? And what are the dangers of passing it o n to my lover, and if contracted...will he be as lucky as me and never have outbreaks? What is the right way to go about our sex life? I want to protect him, I don't think he knows how painful outbreaks can be.