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@whatsallthehubbub I just seen your post. Thank you :)

I found this post and decided to share it with you. It reminds me of people like us and falling in love. "I don't pretend to know what love is for everyone, but I can tell you what it is for me; love is knowing all about someone, and still wanting to be with them more than any other person, love is trusting them enough to tell them everything about yourself, including the things you might be ashamed of, love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone, but still getting weak knees when they walk into a room and smile at you."

Thank you so much @WCSDancer2010 and @HerryTheHerp. You both are awesome and so helpful to everyone :) I was gonna tell him when he came to my house but idk for sure if he's coming tonight or not. He worked all day and is really tired. But hopefully I can talk to him about it soon. Of course "the talk" has been running through my head for a little while and last night we were watching a movie and I just started crying thinking about it.

Little did I know that about 2 years losing my virginity would also mean gaining something in return. We all know what it is! I have had sex with that guy again shortly after him taking my virginity. But that was the only person I've been with in 2 years. I'm currently in a relationship with an amazing man who's a few years older than me and we've been together about 2 1/2 months. It's not a long time but hey a relationships gotta start somewhere right. Tonight is the night that I'm going to him the complete truth about me and my condition. I realize now like many others have, that H has kind of held me back. And obviously it has been the main reason that I have not had sex. I truly believe that my boyfriend loves and cares about me that it wouldn't matter than I have H. IT will not define me or hold me back anymore. I think I've handled this fairly well considering... Thanks to all for the support from here and GOD for his unconditional love and support. :)

Thanks :) you too

I'll ask my mom and hopefully she will remember. I'm sorry that happened to you so young. But I'm sure you're well educated on it now being older.

That's true. I'll ask my dr about getting blood work to be sure. And talk to him about him getting tested too. I'm sure that mine will come back positive. I guess I'd tell him that 2 years ago I thought I had something but now I know for sure

No I've never got cold sores or fever blisters on or around my mouth ever. Knock on wood :)

Thank you ma'am. This relationship means more to me than my others. I'm not saying that I didn't care for any of my exes when we were together because i did. But this is the first time I actually didn't go looking for a guy ya know? And it's different, the feelings and the whole relationship. It feels more right I guess you could say.

You are awesome WCSDANCER2010. Thank you so much!! :) how have you're relationships went when you disclosed?? If you don't mind me asking

I have an appointment with the obgyn in February. I guess I'll tell her everything and about my relationship and ask about suppressive therapy. Do I need to suggest blood work to be 100% sure that's what I have or what?? If so, to hold him off I thought about telling him that I think I have an STD and tell him that I'm going to the dr to find out. Idk. I feel stuck and every situation is different with different people.

Well he told me about a month ago that the last time he had sex was about 2 months before we started dating. We starting dating in October so that would put him not getting any since around August. That's 4 months with him being without sex! To me that's a long time for a guy so I figured if sex was a big issue he would have already walked away by now.

Right I haven't had sex with him yet. I never got tested before because I was a virgin until 2 years ago. Losing my virginity, broke out, then when to the dr to get checked for the first time. Stupid me. But I guess everything happens for a reason. I'm just glad I haven't had anymore OB's cuz they are terrible!!

I was on suppressive therapy for a year and had to change drs. The new dr told me to stop suppressive therapy because its used for people with multiple outbreaks a year. And since I only had that one OB she told me to stop it. THANK YOU SO MUCH!!

Can the virus pass through a condom like semi-permeable or does it only pass if the condom breaks?? But yes I will tell him before we have sex I don't want to lie to him about anything.

I'm never told a guy/boyfriend before and like everyone else I'm scared of rejection. Call me crazy but I believe with all my heart that he will not judge me and still want to be with me. I've only been with one person and got H. He's been with close to 20 people so he could have something and not know it. I had blood work done but I don't know if they told me the results. This has been almost 2 years since I found out. I was broke out and that's how I knew I had it they told me from looking at me (HSV-2). I seen a comment about not knowing for sure if you go to the dr before 3 months of unprotected sex. How true is this? And if this is true can I not have hsv-2?? And I also would like to know exactly what to say to my bf because I kinda want to have a sex life again but I want him to know the truth first. Idk whether to go get blood work done to know for sure or to just tell him I have it. HELP

Is the handounts on the resources page?? It has about disclosing and the risks, etc. No my boyfriend does not know. I'm not sure if whether to tell him or not. The only other outbreak I've had besides when I first found out was one blister last year because I was stressed about school. I took my medicine and used triple antibiotic ointment and it went away like the next day or two.

I'm new here and obviously we all know the reason why I'm here. So Feb 2012 I was at a party and lost my virginity to a friend of mine and it was unexpected but anyways I did it. In march me and the guy done stuff again just anal to be exact. And I broke out everywhere a short time after that. I called the dr hysterical and they saw me later on that day. They done blood work and checked me everything then they looked at me and told me I have hsv-2. I didn't want to think or do and I was so scared. And I haven't had sex since then. And I went back and told the guy I had it and of course he denied it but I really don't think he knew he had it. I'm just looking for support and encouragent because now I'm in a great relationship and I'm so scared idk what to do. I will post another discussion later about what's currently going on. Thanks in advance.