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Thank you for replying. This Is just something I've been hoping for. He was never really clear about his thoughts. I thought I did a pretty great job explaining H etc. I let him know that if he needs time or has questions I completely understand. He said how amazing I am and that he would probably just need time to process this. For about 2 weeks, he became more distant and texting wasn't the same. I finally said that I didn't want to just be a texting buddy and if he ever changes his mind to not hesitate and reach out. He made sure to tell me that it would be hard to remain just friends with me because he had begun developing feelings and that he thinks/hopes everything will pan out with time. I just don't get it. That last text conversation was 2 weeks ago.

 

[I told the guy I was dating on the 2nd date about my hsv 2]

On 6/14/2017 at 7:49 PM, casi1001 said:

Let me tell you a little story. A little over 2 years ago I met someone through a dating site and we hit it off like you wouldn't believe. I really fell hard for this guy and quick. We talked on the phone frequently as he's a truck driver with alot of time to talk sometimes. A few weeks later he invited me over to his place for the afternoon and things started to get pretty hot real fast. I'm afraid I didn't disclose very well but I did before things went to far. We stopped with the fooling around at that point and he asked some questions that I answered as best I could and we spent the rest of the day cutting hay on his farm with me riding on the tractor with him. He was a bit distant when I left and said he needed a bit of time and I respected that.

 

Fast forward a few weeks. During this time I really only heard from him a few times and it was mostly through text. He said he was still thinking and I told him if he wanted to get a hold of me in the future he could. A few more weeks go by with no contact at all so as devastated as I was I went back to my online profile and completely rewrote it. I actually came out to everyone in my profile. I figured I wanted everyone to know before I went through something like that again. I was so surprised at the responses I got. I actually had MORE guys hitting on me then I ever did before. A few weeks later I started dating someone from the next state away and things went really well, we got engaged about 6 months in. During this time the other guy did get back a hold of me but by then I was with someone else and he didn't call me again.

 

The new guy and I lasted about 18 months total before I found out he was still seeing at least two other women he's met online. I went back to the dating site I'd met him on and subscribed for another month so I could see if his profile was still active and it was. Within 2 hours of my profile becoming active again the original guy got a hold of me again and we started talking again. By this time I had of course told my ex-fiance to take a flying "leap". The original guy and I talked daily for about 6 weeks as I had moved out of state but we started dating again as soon as I moved back to where I had originally lived. He has come to terms with my condition and we hardly ever talk about it unless I feel I might be having an outbreak. I am on antivirals as it makes him feel a bit safer but it's now been 6 months and I love him to distraction.

 

The moral I guess is that some people process information differently so you just never know. He had come to terms with it a few months after I told him but by then it was to late as I was with someone else and he knew he messed up. I think it was just in the cards for us to be together and believe me we've been making up with our sex life since we've been back together LOL. I don't plan on letting him get away again if I can help it. So hang in there and live your life. If it was meant to be who knows what will happen, it took me and my guy about 20 months apart so it really CAN happen.

 

Hold your head UP and move on with your life. Life is good and it's so much better if you can look at things in a positive way.

 

 

I'm in tears. 😢 This is exactly the kind of positive story I've been scrounging the internet for! I'm so grateful that you took the time to share this beautiful love story ❤ 

[from rejected to accepted?]

Has anyone ever disclosed and gotten rejected, but then the person came back after taking some time to think and research?