Stefanine

I wish for everyone regardless of their status for their partners to be honest (the person I got it from did not disclose even though he knew). It sounds like it wasn't the right person for you but I'm sorry to hear about you having to go through that. I try to think about how a partner reacts to our disclosures as an indication to how they will react to other potentially stressful or not ideal news (doesn't always help in the moment but in the long run does matter).

Thank you for sharing! I'm going through something similar. I thought we got through the potential bumpy part of disclosing and the guy deciding if it was something he was comfortable with. Everything was fine, I wanted to wait a little bit in case he got cold feet (as someone in the past had gotten), he was super excited about having sex (as was I- I hadn't since my diagnosis 4 years ago!), we talked about precautions, it happened, and the next time we hung out he had concerns, thought he was getting a cold sore from oral sex, said later in the week he had some sores under his nose...but also had told me he's gotten cold sores before, an ex had HPV and wears a mask all day at work, facial hair, so could have been a number of things. He specifically said he didn't want to end things, was going to the doctor and also talk to his therapist, but has been distant and flaked on plans. He finally said he needs more time to think about things. I realize there's not much more we can do than be upfront and honest with potential partners, and I appreciate he talked to me about it rather than just ghost, but it's been rough to feel rejected after the fact from the first guy that seemingly accepted this part of me. My friends are supportive but I'm grateful to have joined this community to hear about other people's experiences and share with people who know what I am going through.