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Thank you all so much for your responses. @AlliKat12 I have talked to him and he says he has been 100% faithful and I do believe that. We’ve spent nearly all our time together the past few months with everything surrounding the pregnancy. He has not been tested for herpes (when he originally told me clear for stds many years ago it was the standard panel). Since I have been negative for the antibodies tests annually since we’ve been together, we feel it’s safe to assume he has carried it but has been asymptomatic. There must have been some shedding or a low symptom outbreak for him around July 4th, when I contracted it. Likely due to stress. Thanks for your encouraging words, this group seems awesome. @My_dog_is_hungry Yep I think that’s exactly what has happened. It’s crazy how this virus can work, ugh. @mr_hopp not the parking lot tears!! (Kidding, but really, that moment is not an easy one for any of us - I’m really happy and hopeful reading how far you’ve personally come from there to now). Your words made me breath a sigh of relief and refocus on getting healthy from this first OB so I can start educating myself on the virus and taking back control over my health and happiness. Thank you 🙏🏼

Hi, New here (29F) and want to say an upfront thanks to whoever runs this community. Much appreciation for making this forum easy to navigate and keeping it a non-judgmental, supportive space. I’ve spent a lot of time staring at a cut-out magazine photo of a beach scene the last few months. My gynecologist taped it to the ceiling for patients to look up at when they lay uncomfortably with their feet in stirrups as she does exams. I found out I was 8 weeks pregnant there in April. I was handed my first clear ultrasound printed photo there in May. I got confirmation that I had lost my pregnancy there in June. In July, I laid there as I was told I tested positive for HSV2. After that most recent appointment, I sat crying in my car in the office parking lot. I was in a lot of pain from my first OB, but it was a different kind of inexplicable pain that had boiled to the surface in me causing the ugly sobs. There was a knock on my window. The nurse from inside asked if she could give me a hug before I went home. I’ll always appreciate her for that. Needless to say, I am struggling currently with my recent diagnosis. I can relate so much to many of the words I’ve read on here from other users trying to describe where they are emotionally after testing positive. Even though technically I’ve gained something (a virus), it feels a lot more like I’ve lost something. I had blood work done in December 2022, which I do annually, including tests for both strains of herpes. Both were negative. I’ve had the same partner for 5 years. Our first and only time having sex post-miscarriage was early this month. Seven days later my symptoms began to appear. I feel so lost and have so many questions that I probably won’t get clarity on. He says he has never had symptoms and does not think he could be carrying the virus. I don’t have the energy or bandwidth to push back on that right now. Does it even matter? I don’t know. Right now it feels like yes. I know it’s possible to be asymptomatic. I don’t know how it’s possible we had consistent unprotected sex for 5+ years and it’s suddenly one time and I catch the virus? I am feeling quite alone, and I really appreciate this space to share my diagnosis and feelings. I don’t currently have any major breakthrough thoughts or mature takes on how to best handle a herpes diagnosis, but I do feel hopeful things will get better with time, as they usually do.