LostinHSVLand

Oh just to clarify - my partner tested positive for HSV 1 via blood test. I have never tested positive - just “theoretically exposed” through her. I reacted to that and am now waiting to see if one exposure will lead to a positive test for me.

Thanks for the thoughtful supportive and thorough response. Will just test and repeat and stay on the sidelines. Not going to expose others to the potential risk no matter how remote. Cheers!

Good afternoon, First, my apologies for soaking up attention/questions here. I have been on these forums for a while the struggles some folks go through on this topic (physically and mentally) is a bummer. Likewise, I applaud the forum moderators….after having reached the end of the internet on this topic, a central location is quite helpful. Here is my situation - new partner (F), Im a male. Regular testing as a precaution conducted, full history conversation, etc. After first time together, within 18 hours I developed a big cyst down there and another one on the other side of ‘down there’, which has never happened. I FREAKED OUT, tough insensitive conversations occurred and my maturity was without question lacking. I visited 1 doctor “that’s NOT Herpes, its Cysts, its a penis, weird things happen”. Visited another - same thing neither would swab. Even went to the derm - he said that’s not something we can ‘test’…happy to cut it out though :(. My partner got ANOTHER test to calm me down - this one INCLUDED the HSV1 test which came back positive. Que further freak out on my part. She said ‘no history of genital at all, has had cold sores etc. Her doctor said - what’s his (referring to me) problem ” Relationship irreparably damaged - Im sure this story is familiar to many here - and I apologize to all of you on behalf of the immature people like me. I make no excuse. Im now in the ‘what next stage’. All my stuff is negative. My cysts slowly went down over 3-4 weeks and is now just a white thing under my skin. I did the serological testing immediately after our time together - all negative - 3 weeks after that negative (median sero whatever at 3 weeks). I can do all the math and odds of transfer * .5 is a really low percent. Am I being crazy? Doctors say so but they are dismissive of anything that’s not cancer. Should I stay on the sidelines and not pursue any relationships until 6 months and testing remains clear? I really dont know what to do? And yes I have apologized to my former partner repeatedly. Thanks again for reading this and any advice