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letsbefriends1995. I can't offer advice but I can say I am in the same boat as you. There are alot of people like you. Be strong, keep your head right and it will work out.

Thank you both of replying, I can't convey in words how much I appreciate it. I told two women who I recently had sex with, the clinic said not to bother. I did anyway. One has already been to the clinic and they said if you show no symptoms then they can't really test for it and that is that. Come back if you ever had some symptoms, otherwise just continue on as normal. That is one reason that I feel inclined to let her live her life without me, why burden a young girl with that. I believe she has only ever had sex with me also. Basically telling someone they might have something that can never be confirmed, it would be a big shock and probably leave her resenting me. I would be an intrusive thought trigger for it and she would never want to be round me. It is hard anyway, mentally, extremely, extremely hard - as she lives so close to me, I can see her house from mine. I feel like it is hard to forget her and I am on the gradient down to a mental breakdown. You are right WCS, I doubt she would say anything to anyone else. I can take that..............99% as a given. :| What if we chat and decide to give it another go, at this point I haven't told her I have it. Would you tell her the same night? It is alot to take it, maybe I could tell her. Present her with facts and then that moment drive to the clinic to talk to an advisor. What if she wants to give it another go but take things slowly, should I then wait weeks to tell her? What if she doesn't want to give it another go, is it right to burden all of this on her when she shows no symptoms and the clinic say they can't even test without the presence of blisters? Telling her would serve no purpose other to put a "death sentence" on her the rest of her life without ANY proof she has anything. I don't know if I have HSV1/2 yet, I am still awaiting the response of my blood work. I had blisters on my penis and they took samples from that. A side note, sexual speaking how has it affected people in relationships with people who have shown no symptoms? Online I see along the lines of 1) No sex on an outbreak 2) Always wear a condom 3) Take meds (if needed). Do some people agree to have unprotected sex, what about unprotected oral sex? What happens if one of you want a baby? What then? Thank you again, you do not realise how much I am thankful of your responses. I alone, devastated, dark, shameful and just want to cry and cry and cry.

Hi everyone, Diagnosed three days ago, I need advice and would really like input of the more experienced and mature amongst us if possible. It would be appreciated from the bottom of my heart. I was with a girl for four years, she is younger than me, by ten years, I met here when she was 18. I was a slut before that, maybe three/four times in that time she said she would drop the "we should go get tested" convo, I have zero reason to believe she cheated, we can discount that. I was a slut before meeting her and a slut after. I recently started talking to her again (pre me being diagnosed) and have agreed to meet up again when she is off holiday. She live less than 50 metres from my house. I would love to get back with her, therein lies multiple issues. Of course, there is "the talk", she is young, how would she respond. Then in the talk what if I say I could have had it years, I am then bringing a double whammy to her. She would have to get tested and go through hell. Is it right to put this on someone when I could easily send her a text saying I think it is a bad idea getting back together. What if I tell her, she shuns me, has to get tested anyway and is clear then has this information about me when she could share it with social circles I am in. Is the right thing to do, is the right thing to do - let her live her life? Not telling her anything? Let me take all the burden? It has been 7 months since we broke up. Is it too much to lay on her quickly? Should I say if after we have had a normal talk, given it a few weeks and see if it rekindles. Or mention within the first few days. I didnt show symptoms when with her, only after. Please help, I am in such a deep, dark place at the moment