I'm sure to be burned here for what I'm about to say but I have to let this out and see what you all think. I was married for about 5 years. Tried marriage counseling and personal counseling to try to make it work (mostly for my son's sake) but my ex and I just were not compatible. I started getting the feeling like she was doing things behind my back but she and my marriage counselor reassured me that I was just coming up with crazy thoughts.
Well, shortly after our divorce was finalized by the state I ended up finding out that she had been stripping at a local club behind my back and right after that I discovered that she had been sleeping with her doctor who performed surgery on her knee states away. I felt so betrayed even that we weren't together anymore. I had been living in her world of lies without even realizing it.
Shortly after all of this, I had gotten a really bad sore throat and had an abscess on my tonsils. I was hospitalized for almost a week on IV antibiotics then released to go home. I started to get a headache that night. Woke in the morning unable to talk or move my head without my neck hurting. Then I started vomiting uncontrollably. I texted my ex since my son was in my care (I have him 60-70% of the time) and she called 911 and came to get him.
I was hospitalized, spinal tapped and it was determined that I had bacterial meningitis. I had to stay in the ICU for almost a week then was moved to a regular room for a few days. Then they installed a pick line (IV from heart to bicep area) and I had to administer antibiotics via IV 2X a day. After being home for a few days, I got a call from the doctor and he said that they found a virus growing in my spinal fluid and they needed to switch my medications to anti-viral and I would have to administer them via IV for 3 weeks every 8 hours. I was on oxy, percocet, diloted, and morphine for almost 5 weeks.
During a follow up appointment with my doc, he told me that the virus growing in my spine was herpes. I was floored. I suppose that I got it from my ex because I confronted her on it and she told me that she had it. Can't do anything about it though. I do not know what form of the virus I have and I will find out at my next follow up. I was very uneducated on the whole thing until a bit of the reading that I've been doing as of lately.
The crazy thing is I've never had a single bump blister or anything EVER. I take valacyclovir 500mg daily now just because it was prescribed to me but not sure if I need it.
Well, here it is now. I recently was re-introduced to someone who I hadn't seen in almost 15 years. I had seen her a few times and we both have had a lot of fun together. Giving everything from my past I want to take things slow and really get to know her (all of the things that I failed to do before).
Anyhow things were going great and I had plans to take her out the other night. I wasn't mentally ready to disclose my info to her and just planned on doing it after I wanted to take it to the next level. Well, we went out to dinner and had a few drinks, then went to a few more places to grab some drinks. I think I was trying to prolong the night so that we wouldn't have a chance of intercourse.
At the end of the night we went back to her place to sit on the porch and talk and she really came onto me. I messed up bad because we ended up having sex. This is completely my fault and the alcohol backfired completely. I feel like I completely betrayed someone that I'm really started to have feelings for and I started off a possible relationship with a lie. I'm trying to figure out what I should do now. I'm thinking I either have to end it because I want honesty with who ever I'm in a relationship with or I have to figure out a way to tell her now.
I know I messed this up bad. I really wish I had been more educated on this whole thing. I stumbled onto this site yesterday and I had no idea there was anything like this out there.
Any advice that you guys can give would be great here. From what you've just finished reading you might think that I am a complete scumbag and I understand that but I'm telling you this is not me and not at all what I want to do.