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Thanks guys. Its nice to hear these things from people and not just doctors lol. I may have sounded a bit harsh towards my partner, he's my best friend and I don't want to lose him. Finding out I have this virus has made me feel somewhat like I'm caged, I keep taking it out on him. We have a child together and aside from the virus, everything's fine. The thing is we had separated for aabout a year and during that time he got with someone else, who is now pregnant. When we told her we had tested positive for herpes she got so defensive- she said her mother had it when she was young and it just went away. She is convinced its not for life. Her ignorance and refusal to accept the facts has made me think that she's had it for awhile and refused to accept it..I'm concerned for her child, but also angry that she could be so selfish. My boyfriend told me while they were together she had a "cut" down there and she told him it was no big deal. She said she was allergic to latex, they never used protection. Anyways! It is surpringly helpful to write these things down.

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I was really happy to find this site..I just found out yesterday that i have herpes. A few weeks ago I had an outbreak and I knew there was something wrong. It was so awful, I could barely walk and nothing helped. I went to my gyno and she did a culture, and a bunch of blood tests. She took a look and said from what she could see it looked like herpes..I was sure she was right, after doing a bit of research myself. She schedualed a follow up appointment for me. A few days later I got a call back from a nurse saying all my tests had come back negative. I was so relieved but i absolutely could not believe that there was nothing wrong. I called back and spoke to a bunch of different people, all assuring me everything was fine. I figured I'd go to my follow up appointment anyways. Sure enough, my doctor tells me I do, in fact, have the virus. I was once again totally mortified all over again. I had already told my partners that I had herpes, then told them apparently there was a mistake, now I'm supposed to tell them again? I'm a very sexual person and I do have multiple partners. I have always been responsible and used protection and I know that is not bulletproof but I guess I just never thought this would happen to me.. I feel like my life is over and no one will ever want me again. I don't want a monogamous relationship at this point in my life and that makes it worse. I don't know if there's anyone on here that understands this. I feel completely shattered and like I'm chained to my partner (who we found out also has herpes now.)